Well.. i was only seeing my boyfriend for 3 1/2 months when i found out i was pregnant. Up until this point things had been going really well...and we were talking about him moving in at some point, he stayed about 5 mights a week anyway. From the time i found out (unplanned), he sort of just dissapeared...accused me of trying to trap him ( dont think so!) bla bla...He wanted me to have a termination, but im 37 and dont have any children, and didnt feel this was an option for me, but i went away with a friend on holiday to think. I decided to keep the baby, knowing that this would probably be on my own. Over the past few weeks, he has called and come round a few times to talk, saying he is not good with responsibilty etc ( has a 12 year old daughter), but is making noises about maybe giving it a go. I am 13 weeks pregnant,, he didnt want to come to the scan, but came round to look at the pics after and called to see how i was. He said that he is scared of screwing my life up,and that he just dosnt think he can change ( he also has a gambling habit), but knows he would have to..
Sooooooo how many of you would give it a go " for the sake of the child"? We still get on and fancy each other..but he has issues ( dont we all) , but not sure I want to put myself in a position to be knocked down. He accused me of trying to trap him, but i have my own home and savings etc,and he lives in a mates bedroom? My friends tell me to make sure he dosnt take advantage of me? I have come to terms with doing this on my own. I would hope that at the very least we will have a friendship and that the baby will know his/her father.....Just wanted to bounce this off other single parents to see what you think?
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beller · 22/06/2007 16:01
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