I fell pregnant at university after a one night stand with someone who turned out to be 16 (I know, I know). I gave the dad a complete free pass; no expectations for contact/help/money/etc and left it at that. I haven't heard from him since. His mum has contact one Friday a month and is really lovely. DDs are now 5 and at school, they would have no idea who he was if they saw him on the street.
I'm more than happy for him to have contact, I just have no idea how to go about it. I don't know him at all and most certainly do not trust him. I'm also incredibly busy so don't really have time to be spending with him in order to get to know him. He's moving to London in the new year so will be close enough for, say, hour long visits. He's also starting to pay some maintenance so is at least trying to be responsible. I just can't stop looking at him like he's a child who I can't trust with my children (even though he's older now than I was when they were born).
Any advice would be hugely appreciated.
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Dad wants contact.... it's been over 5 years
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reindeerbitesback · 10/12/2016 15:13
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