Miss physical intimacy

(8 Posts)
wonderstuff100 Thu 20-Oct-16 14:23:40

Just wanted to start a thread about this. I find up there with loneliness this is the thing I find hardest. I do miss sex,and I can satisfy that with toys more or less,but the lack of regular physical intimacy with another person really gets to me.

I've dated on and off for nearly two years and nothing really ever went anywhere. I don't want to take anyone as a boyfriend just to fill this void but at the same time I don't want to just have casual sex,done it before DS and was fine but I don't have the time or want to go and pick up a random and bring him back to my house. Same with a fuck buddy. If I don't want a relationship with that person,I doubt I'd want to sleep with them.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who feels like this!

HyperStripe Thu 20-Oct-16 19:20:34

You're definitely not the only one! :P

wonderstuff100 Thu 20-Oct-16 19:53:49

Good to hear, how do you deal with it? Or do you?

HyperStripe Sat 22-Oct-16 03:43:33

Sorry for the late reply! I forgot to check whether you had responded.

In answer to your question I don't think I do anything really. As I'm not used to be touched by anyone other than DD I now tend to withdraw myself from being touchable by anyone else is that makes sense? As In I'll purposely make a lot of room for myself when walk past someone, try not to stand too close to people, things like that. It's not healthy :/

I had a terrible date a few weeks ago where I had to sit next to the date on the ride and it was awful, I kept try to pull myself to the other side!

HyperStripe Sat 22-Oct-16 03:44:35

On a ride*(we were at a fair probably should have mentioned that smile )

warmleatherette Mon 24-Oct-16 16:01:56

Hi, I'm in the same boat. What I tend to do, if I can afford it, is go for an hour-long aromatherapy massage. Sounds obvious but i find it tends to provide enough touch that the hunger for it is sated for about three months. I know it seems like a ridiculous luxury when you're a single parent, but if it keeps me functioning happily then I think it's worth it.

PollyPelargonium52 Sun 06-Nov-16 06:59:49

I enjoy a lovely monthly massage too as I have lordosis of the spine and work at a desk so feel I can justify the cost and it is a holistic treatment. The massage therapist is a single parent also which is handy for common ground understanding. As for sex I sometimes have casual sex from a few contacts I have made over the years for a bit of fun. It would be good to have a relationship slowly but then again ds is too young still and needs me a lot so I have no available spare time as such ....

ChronicPainDaddy Mon 07-Nov-16 15:30:33

I'm the same as well. I've only officially been a single dad since the start of the year, but my wife was distant for a long time before she left, and I really miss little things like relaxing together watching a film or having a cuddle. Unfortunately I'm a disabled dad of two with the youngest having his own medical issues so I can't see ever finding someone else to enjoy those things with

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