Hello,
Last week my husband left us for his co-worker, who also happens to be married with 4 kids. I caught him sending messages to her about a month ago, we talked it through, he said he wanted to work things through. Last week, I found a hotel booking he'd made. Not for us. That was the end, he'd chosen her and not his family.
We've been together 15yrs. He'd cheated early on in our relationship but we worked it out and I thought were happily ever after, ever since. To say it was a shock is an understatement. I am devastated but I've chosen not to let him win. Every time he's around, I'm slapping a smile on my face and I'm trying my best not to get angry or to cry in front of him.
This is where it gets ridiculous, apparently he still wants his cake and eat it. He suggested to me that we keep an on going "friends with benefits" arrangement going. He'll text and flirt with me very openly. Its so frustrating. He wants it but is also very worried about me sharing this information with his new woman. I have actual proof he's already not being faithful to her. When I first found out about the affair, I messaged her as I have her number to congratulate, her and him on destroying 2 marriages and 6 kids lives between them. I also obviously know where she works.
I really want to take the high road, so badly. They are both in the wrong and karma will come round and bite them in the arse soon enough, but I really want to give it a swift helping hand. I want her to know exactly what he's like and I want him for once to own his issues. It so frustrating, having to be the one who was left heartbroken, and picking up the pieces, while they're off enjoying a new relationship. I know in reality their relationship has major flaws, not only because of how it came about but the complications, with work and her ex/4 kids but it still doesn't make me feel better, and having this ammo, is just so very tempting..
Grr..
Use our Single Parent forum to speak to other parents raising a child alone.
Lone parents
Husband left for another woman but..
Krgoliver · 19/09/2016 21:19
Do it, why not? It'll make you feel better and he will have all of his cake taken away 
Don't do it! He'll twist it round to make you look like the crazy, psycho, stalker ex and she's put so much on the line to be with the twat she might well be desperate enough to believe him.
Leave them to their own misery, the best revenge is living well as they say 
What an idiot. I'd leave them to it she'll find out soon enough what he's like and I'd ignore his texts. She'd probably not believe you at the moment thinking you are just making up lies to get back at him. They deserve each other let them mess this up too.
Absolutely go for it. Why not ? I have never understood why in these circumstances you wouldn't . They have seriously upset the lives of you and 6 kids. Even if desperate to believe it will sow a little disharmony and distrust in paradise. A recording is best ! Can't pretend it's you manipulating then !!
Probably won't have any effect but willl bring you a little bit of pleasure at a dark time. for you OP. You will come out of this stronger.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.