Should I stop contact

(12 Posts)
user1474315216 Mon 19-Sep-16 21:12:15

Need advice sad my child's dad has a father who is a convicted pedophile. When we where still together he spoke to his dad on the telephone and also went to visit him once. He has now been released and living locally. I've asked my child's dad if he has contact with his father and he told me it was none of my business. I have been told by SS to stop contact immediately and I am also seeking legal advice. I just worry that a judge would rule against me as there is no evidence to my child seeing their grandfather. This man is also considered highly dangerous and is very well known to police and to SS. Any help/advice would be welcome please!

user1474315216 Mon 19-Sep-16 21:47:21

sad

Lweji Mon 19-Sep-16 21:51:04

Yes, I would follow SS's advice and stop contact, unless I was fully reassured that there was no contact at all.

As it is, and if you stop contact and he goes to court, he'll have to demonstrate to the judge that he can be trusted to protect his own son.

Ouriana Mon 19-Sep-16 21:52:37

Stop contact.

The alternative isnt worth risking or considering.

user1474315216 Mon 19-Sep-16 21:54:26

Thank you, my thoughts exactly but I always feel I'm being bitter as he's very manipulative. Horrible situation for the children but like you say it's not worth the risk

Ouriana Mon 19-Sep-16 21:54:34

Do you have anything from Social Services in writing to say contact should be stopped? It may be worth trying to get that to show your childs Dad and also to use in court at a later date, just to show you are acting on their advice rather than just being obstructive.

PikaPikaPikachu Mon 19-Sep-16 22:01:22

SS will back you, as would any one. Cut all contact. Unless your ex agrees to supervised visits?

Starlight234 Wed 21-Sep-16 11:30:14

Yep I agree..I also advise to try and get it documented from SS.

Waltermittythesequel Wed 21-Sep-16 11:32:26

Stop contact immediately.

You've been told to.

Starlight234 Wed 21-Sep-16 12:01:18

Other thing..If you continue contact you may be accused of not safeguarding your child.

user1474315216 Wed 21-Sep-16 12:11:50

Contact has been stopped. Thank you everyone was nervous and scared dad can be very intimidating

Waltermittythesequel Wed 21-Sep-16 12:47:39

Just remember who you have on your side.

And don't be afraid to phone the police should he try to intimidate you in any way.

He should be more concerned for the safety of his dc.

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