Ex and school

[mytimewillcome]

My ex is trying to get our children's school and teachers onside by basically presenting himself as a victim and me as the aggressor. We're not divorced yet. He currently isn't seeing the children as he neglected them on two occasions and then when I demanded be take a drugs test he waited 4 months to clear his system. So he hasn't seen then for over 6 months. I also have a restraining order against him and a non molesation order against his mother. The school know this but new school year and another chance for him to try and win them over. I've seen letters that he sent criticising my behaviour to a teacher that we were meeting about bullying of our son. He said things like I'm still scared of her so I didn't say anything and that I trust you as the teacher to know best and I will leave you to deal with it. What can I do about this? He has seen both teachers for our sons already saying who knows what whereas I see them everyday but haven't really said anything. Would you just let him get on with it? I don't want to then speak to them and tell them what has happened because then I'm behaving like him. Thanks.

[SharonfromEON]

If he hasn't seen them in over 6 months how come he is going into school?

I know most schools are expected to be impartial and unless it is a child protection issue your relationship is not relevant.

[mytimewillcome]

He's seen them at school for sports days etc but hasn't had them at his flat or for the day. So just ignore then? I'm just worried they may believe him.

[Fourormore]

I agree, just ignore it. Schools really don't like getting involved and they certainly won't be interested in him being scared of you.