Being around couples

(9 Posts)
lolo14 Mon 29-Aug-16 08:25:15

Just a moan, I have been single since I conceived my first and only child. Done the whole thing alone. Mostly I manage; I work, see friends with kids and try to make my daughters life as balanced and happy as it can be. It's nice to get invited to parties but I always come home with an empty feeling after seeing all the couples there. I only know one other single mummy, she's great and understands but can't help but feel sad when these things happen. I've helped make my bed, so to speak, but I can fight off these dark times when I consider how hard it is to raise a child alone.

Foslady Mon 29-Aug-16 09:49:13

That's my feelings too. Ex went off with another woman, still together, life all hunky first as far and I'm aware and don't really care either way about them.......but it's the being the only single one left that does get to me. And when you go anywhere and everyone's a couple it's as though you are being reminded of this. But then I tell
myself I was worth far more than the crap he dealt me, and even if no one loves me ever again it's better for be alone than with someone who treats you like shit.
I pour my love and energy into dd and I believe we have one of the best mother/daughter relationships ever. And that's what keeps me going

lolo14 Mon 29-Aug-16 10:14:37

Yes Foslady, I'm glad you understand. You're well rid of the ex and you're right, it's better being alone than with a bell end!

Mostly I'm fine, I just have times I miss support. Financially, emotionally and everything else is all down to me . Probably best not to dwell on it!!

Foslady Mon 29-Aug-16 10:26:32

Come and join us on the big thread - we're all there for one another. FWIW I miss being hugged, having someone tell me it's going to be ok, financial support, everything being down to me and goddamit I miss sex!!!!

jellybelly16 Wed 31-Aug-16 20:01:02

I so understand this. I'm in a better place now than where i was with exh but do feel lonely sometimes. Esp when the dc are with their dad. Most of my friends all have dp so i am kinda odd one out...x

whatyouseeiswhatyouget Thu 01-Sep-16 08:00:14

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Flowerpower41 Mon 05-Sep-16 11:42:39

I sometimes feel lonely for friends but never for a bloke. In my exp. they are nothing but a headache!

I do understand having to do everything alone though. Although I keep my ex informed very regularly he doesn't play a very central role in his upbringing and leaves everything to me....!

One week fairly recently I was very fed up with ds's behaviour I texted him thinking he would say something to him. He did nothing!

I think it is because he has his hands full with a 5 year old son from another woman and he has custody not her. Doesn't help me out though does it hey ho.

lolo14 Mon 05-Sep-16 17:13:22

We all battle on right? It's weird as I don't crave a man in my life yet I feel sad when I see couples?! I think it's just having some sort of support such as emotional, financial, decision making etc. Hey ho like you say, no one can not call us tough women! I've learned what resilience really means since being in this situation!

Flowerpower41 Tue 06-Sep-16 06:55:29

In my exp. partners don't give us the right kind of support so are thereby pretty useless. Hence nothing to miss!

I have lived with four men over the years prior to ds being born. In all cases they weren't much cop. Men are about themselves if you ask me!

I just feel relieved I am not stuck with a bloke personally! No overcomprising and having to put up with their selfish entitled behaviour.

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