This is long but please bear with me
Me and my exp are back up in court soon for contact. He started off saying he wanted 50/50 shared parenting ie dcs live with us equally which was never gonna happen and now hes gone down to having them stay over at his house one night a week. For a bit of history I left him because of his abusive behaviour towards me and dcs. When I was with him he wasn't very involved in the general upbringing and would leave it all to me.
He now sees the dcs on a Saturday for a few hours and in this time he has no clue what hes doing imo. He clearly favours my dd over her younger brother. He always brings her new toys etc and ds gets nothing (hes only 3 so I don't think he notices). Hes just bought her a new bike!! When dcs r with him he doesn't feed them properly just lets them eat sweets/crisps/chocolate and give them all tins of coke to drink. Before youngest was porry trained he wouldn't change his nappy and ds came home to me once in a nappy full of poo that had been on so long his wee legs and bum were red raw and he could hardly walk
My problem is that I don't want to give him overnights yet until he can prove he is committed to the time he already has. He regularly shows up late or the next day because of 'work' (I know he doesnt work and I think hes just hungover and cant be arsed dealing with dcs)
I have to go into hospital soon for an operation and will be in for 2 nights at least and I have absolutely no one else to look after the dcs when I'm in so I'm seriously considering letting exp have them even though its going to be even more heartache. I have no family near me who can have them when I'm in hospital.
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HeardItAll · 23/08/2016 16:53
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