Feeling lonely and tired

(10 Posts)
user1471034569 Sat 13-Aug-16 15:36:07

So I'm a lone parent just me and two kids I don't have many freinds if at all any I'm also a stay at home mum due to no one being able to do pick ups and drop offs. Anyway recently I've started to really hate being on my own but I just am not ready to meet anyone new yet as I've just come out of a 6year abusive relationship my anxiety is getting worse some one tell .e it gets better

Anothernamechanger1 Sat 13-Aug-16 21:08:13

I'm also on my own with 2 kids. Their dad whom I was married to was also abusive toward me. I also suffer with bad anxiety. (Are you me???? grin )

Do you have any family members near by?

I'm just trying to sort out my anxiety issues but I don't want to go on medication. I'm in the process of finding a therapist so that I can come to terms with what has happened to me and my kids. What sort of help are you trying to get or have you not taken that step yet?

user1471034569 Sat 13-Aug-16 21:25:22

hi I have family near by see my mum once a week but every one works and is hard to get hold of them sometimes feel like I don't go out much and just sit in all the time it does get to the point where most days its just me I've been trying to do it myself as like you don't want to go on medication I do have family like my mum to talk to but she don't always seem to understand it also don't help I don't drive so cant get about as easily as most people x

Anothernamechanger1 Sat 13-Aug-16 21:51:05

Do you have any hobbies? Do you like to walk?i find if I stay in for more than 2 days I get worse. Sometimes when Iv walked to school I'll try to take a longer walk home, for the excercise but also so I feel that I done something?

user1471034569 Sat 13-Aug-16 22:06:55

Yea I do try to get out as much as possible like try And do bits but even just going home makes me think ow on my own Again and no I don't have any hobbies other than Reding

user1471034569 Sat 13-Aug-16 22:08:04

I am due to start a maths and English course in September so that will help hopefully

Flowerpower41 Fri 19-Aug-16 11:47:01

User I am sure the college courses will help good for you!

Flowerpower41 Fri 19-Aug-16 11:48:40

If there is any spare time beyond the college courses how about a volunteer job in a charity shop a lot of single parents have done that over the years.

I work at home but I did try charity shop work once however I couldn't spare the time away from earning money but it was definitely a jolly and sociable option and a good way of not feeling trapped indoors. I can definitely recommend it.

HalfpintPixie Fri 19-Aug-16 13:12:40

Heya, how are you feeling today?

I totally get where you're coming from. Im trying to deal with anxiety and depression, my ex was abusive, and I've to deal with social services because he's been charged with child related offences, and bloody hell I'm exhausted and lonely!
I like online groups for single mums, book clubs, craft groups etc because I can talk to people without having to leave the house and get tripped up by my anxiety!
I do find keeping busy helps, your courses sound like a great opportunity, kudos to you for doing that! I read a lot, try to devote time to my son to get him interested in the world, and mostly I keep my head above the water. Then I have days like today, where I just miss having someone to interact with who knows me, can make me smile or know what I'm thinking without me having to say, I just realise how much I miss having a connection to somebody.
At least I'm not the only one.

If you're a big reader, do you like audiobooks? It can be a good way to get some light exercise, like a walk, while still following a good story!
I really hope you're feeling a bit better today.

user1471034569 Sun 21-Aug-16 16:06:59

Hi thank you yes feeling better today I do read a lot as it takes my mind of things I don't drive so I do try to get out as much as possible no volunteer work near me yet but am still looking the school run is a pain as it can take over an hour to do

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