(Sorry long post)
DD is 7. She can be very head strong & willful.
Today a few things happened (lying & speaking horribly rudely to her sibling and to me) and at bedtime she tipped the scales with more of the bad rude attitude. I sent her to her room while I put other child to bed.
Then I went to talk to her about her behaviour. It was like it wasn't her. Almost acting a role, full of hatred towards me, every time I tried to speak to her about events in the day she cut me off, interrupted and spoke over me. She threatened me that if I didn't let it go 'I can get angry whenever I want and you don't want that' followed by wide eyed stare. I felt she was trying to threaten me?! Which I told her not to but I am shocked by the entire exchange. There were other things but no point getting into every detail.
I felt I had to end things before she said too much for her sake, and calmly (ish) said 'this conversation has ended but I want you to remember the things you've said tomorrow'. At the end she was saying how she doesn't care about consequences for bad behaviour, she can just get through them for a day or several days so she doesn't care. I don't fully believe that but there may be an element of truth in it as her attitude doesn't seem to be improving!
So my question now is, WTF do I do in response? There is no one else just me & them. I feel like she's squaring up to my authority (she blatently instructs my other child to go against my own instructions at times) I feel she has no respect for me although I know she loves me, so how the h*ll do I respond to her challenge to my authority? My normal consequences (no tablet / tv / fave toy / sweets / etc for a setime period) clearly isn't working. I need to be prepared in the morning to return to events tonight & have a strategy to deal with her behaviour. I toyed with removing her favourite toy for a set time but that's the approach that's not working.
I feel worried she is behaving so volatile at age 7. I wasn't expecting this for a good few yrs yet.
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wheresmyfairygodmother · 07/08/2016 22:35
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