I'm still in love with my Daughters father

[Tigermumma]

Hi

I hope this is the right place to post. My ex and I have been seperated for a year now, our little girl is coming up for 4 month old so we haven't been together the entire time I was pregnant. He sees her twice a week, and is a good father, trouble is, I'm still in love with him. He moved on very quickly after he left me and started seeing someone else, they are still together now, he says he is happy but that doesn't help me shake off these feelings that I still have. Everytime my phone rings or gets a message, or a car pulls up outside, I hope it is him and he's decided he wants to be a family. What should I do - we were together for a long time before I fell pregnant (which wasn't an accident). Somedays I am friendly and helpful to him in the hope he sees what a good mum I am and then other days, I think about him and her and what they've put me through in the last year emotionally - and I hate them both (there's been a lot of issues with her getting involved and her pushing for him to get full custody etc) so I feel really down, so I don't contact him - but then I see him again and all my old feelings flood back. What should I do and I know they say time is a healer but I'm still crazy mad in love 😭

[starry0ne]

I think maybe you need to look into counselling..No idea what he put you through but after a year it is time to move on but it is much harder as you see him twice a week. Does he see DD at your home? If so maybe keep yourself bus when he is there..Catch up on jobs, get a bath, get a nap.. Let him do the parenting thing.

As for her.. there is no need to direct contact..just ignore any messages from her..