My exp split from me when ds was 6 months old. Ds is now 9. His dad has always contributed financially, seen him regularly etc He met a new partner about 3 years ago and moved into the country about an hour from our small town. Ds had been going to private school in our town but too expensive (dad paying) and we wanted him to have another experience of school so I agreed for him to go to village school about half way between our houses where daughter of exp's new partner was going. (She is same age as ds.) Has turned out to be a big mistake on my part, traffic at my end means much longer to go to and from school, no regular bus so can only drive there. I got a full time job and trying to get childminder who would drive there etc was nightmare, no-one in ds's class lives in our town so has no friends nearby. I have to commute so meant more time away from ds. To make matters worse, ds hasn't really enjoyed being there and teaching has been disappointing in many ways. Has been fine for xp on the other hand as is financially supporting new partner so can leave her to do pickups, much quicker from their house, children from school do live nearer to him etc
I am now looking ahead to secondary school and don't want to make the same mistake again: have resolved that ds should go to school in our town. To me really important that as ds becomes a teenager, he has friends and social circle close by, can make his own way to school by walking, on bus, lifts etc. His dad is his own boss so much more flexible and works two days a week in our town anyway so could pick up etc. But exp is now kicking off about him going to school in this town - I guess he wants him to go to same school as new partner's child and doesn't care if school is miles away again. Obviously if there was a school that was convenient for both of us that would be ideal but we live in different places. He chose to leave - both me and the town! - and I think that in this case, the bottom line has to be somewhere that suits me and my son first. Anyone else had experience of similar conflict and how did you resolve it?
We're going to go to mediation but I feel so strongly about this, I'm beginning to think what do I need to do to go to court if it comes to that?!
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VaVaBroom · 24/04/2016 21:14
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