i am a horrible mother

(12 Posts)
superw Mon 11-Apr-16 13:32:34

i am a single mother alone with my 2 year old all the time from the first day of his life, i take a care of him so good that i forgot myself.
i am full of regrets her dad was a very bad person which made my life miserable he abandon me the moment i got pregnant i went thought everything alone. now that she toddler and tests my patience i feel like i can't take it anymore my heard spins so yell and i start crying we are helpless it makes me feel bad about myself i feel like i am traumatizing my child what do i do except killing myself.

joopy79 Mon 11-Apr-16 23:29:40

You are not a horrible mother flowers Looking after a 2 year old is tiring and tests our patience.
Are you getting out and seeing people? Have you told your friends and family that you need a hand? Have you talked to your gp?

frog51 Thu 14-Apr-16 22:49:08

You are amazing. Toddlers are hard work anyway so try and get some outside help even if for a short time to give you a break - friends, family, toddler group. Soon it will all pass and it will be less stressful xxxxx

Valentine2 Thu 14-Apr-16 23:02:06

You are definitely not a horrible mother. You have come this far all alone. I can't even imagine how hard it would have been to have no help like you had to face. Through bad times you always need support and it must have been so hard and still you came this far. That's hard work. You will one day realise what a great job you did. Just hang in there. We all loose it at some point.

starry0ne Sat 16-Apr-16 11:48:23

2 is a really hard time.. CanI ask are you working...Your DC would be eligable for 15 hours funding if not..It might give you a break from her..

KamMum Sat 16-Apr-16 13:27:57

I want to give you a big hug. Today I feel like that and wish I had some family or someone to help me! It's not easy being a single mum and I'm trying not to be too hard on myself. What keeps me going is the thought that this is just a phase and it won't last for long. You're not a horrible mum, kids expecially toddlers are bloody hard work. Can you get them into a nursery and join some mum and toddler clubs so you can get time to yourself and create your own network of support..

superw Sun 17-Apr-16 21:23:37

thank you so much all of your advice meant a lot to me

superw Sun 17-Apr-16 21:26:04

i don't work and he is doesn't go to nursery he just turn 2 it's a boy that day when i was writing this i was so upset and my english is not that good

starry0ne Sun 17-Apr-16 22:29:19

We all have day that are worse than others.. Depending on when his birthday was he may well be eligable now or September.. A nursery or childminder who takes funded children would be able to give you a break..

At the moment take one day at a time one tantrum to the next.. Bear in mind this is normal development as trying as it is far easier dealing with tantrums at 2 than when they are older.

Emeralda Mon 18-Apr-16 08:00:57

Hi OP, that sounds really tough.I'm wondering if it was a really bad day when you posted or if every day is like that. Someone recommended HomeStart on here recently and the poster seemed to find it helpful. Do you know if there's anything like that local to you?

Ciggaretteandsmirnoff Mon 18-Apr-16 08:05:13

You are not a bad mother!

But you need a break. Go back to th nursary and see if you can get funding. What time does he go bed?

Writingdragonfly Wed 01-Jun-16 17:22:40

I agree with all the others you need some time that's for you, even if that's doing yoga in your living room for half an hour when little one is in bed so soothe yourself and calm right down, it sounds like you're highly stressed. We all get angry sometimes and I too have days where I feel like all I'm doing is yelling at the kids, try and pick your battles, slow it all down and breathe, you're doing a fantastic job! Xxx

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