i'm just using the cms for the first time and they really don't seem to be very with it at all
first of all i rang them to get an official estimate of ex's income, a few months ago, and i've no idea what they said to him but they managed to create a shtstorm where there hadn't previously been one - suddenly I got a load of angry/nasty messages from him and had to put in work myself to pacify ex and get him to agree to pay money directly to me - but it's ended up being a third less than he was paying before (and more than I deserve, according to him..)
I then intended to just close the case and say sod it, but the next guy i spoke to at the cms seemed fairly with it and he told me that i shouldn't close the case before at least hearing back from the income assessment
this week i spoke to someone else at the cms, and they were really pushing me to just close the case, would have done it on the spot, and if it hadn't have been for the advice I got from the guy before, I probably would have just gone along with it. But because I'd been advised that I should get the results of the income assessment first, I started asking some questions.
Through asking the questions, I discovered there is a huge difference between what ex has told me, what he has told the cms and the truth. for example, ex has told them that he has 4 of his children living with him when I know for a fact he has only 1 and the others are resident with his first wife apart from the odd weekend. Apparently him only having 1 resident with him means he would owe me more than the calculation they have done so far. Also for example, they haven't checked at all about his rental income from buy to let properties. I told them about the properties when I first contacted them but they never even asked him about it. So again, the amount he owes would be higher. They can't tell me how much higher and just suggest 25% as a ball park figure. They can only give me exact figures by asking him to give them proof of things and trying to prove if he's hiding anything.
They just seem completely inept - and the guy I spoke to most recently didn't even want to answer the questions I was asking, just kept pushing me to close the case. I had to keep repeating 'yes but that's not what I asked you , I asked you 'xyz'', until he told me what was on his screen.
They say the only other option right now is to go back to ex and ask for proof of his income etc etc (which apparently takes ages - months?).
If they go back to ex it's going to cause the same shtstorm and he's likely to lower (again) the amount he offers to me willingly..
..is it even worth it? The cms just seem to be messing around. I've paid £20 to them to do the checks and they haven't done anything properly - do I complain about that? Or just drop it? I've already spent about 3-4 hours in total on the phone to them.
Does anyone here have experience of using them, is it better to just take any money offered by an ex willingly and walk away?
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tiddlesthetortoise · 11/03/2016 20:37
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