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Maintenance from ex

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Sunbeam1112 · 05/01/2016 16:46

I know this can be a taboo subject and i understand some mums don't get anything or 5pounds a week. But i currently getting 100 a month from ex 25 aweek maitenance from ex. Previously was 165 but he moved jobs and it went down. I found out 6months ago he has since returned to his previous job. He failed to tell me which annoyed mainly as if i needed to get in touch or the school in an emergency they would not have approiate contact details. He works for a bank so mobile phones are prohibited. So i think he didnt want me to know his wages would of been increased.

He approxly gets between 22,000-25,000 a year and has ds tea time over night and one weekend.

DS is 7 and on school dinners costing 10.25 a week on top of that ive had to buy new school shoes gain and replace school trousers due to growth spurt. Hes forever eating. When speaking to work collague she said 25pounds a week is very little. Do you think i should ask for CSA to reassess the claim? I have to contact them as the payment has been delayed and the last one was recieved 6 weeks ago.

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Lonecatwithkitten · 05/01/2016 20:12

You can go to the CMS website and plug the figures in that will give you best idea of whether he should be paying more or not.

CinnamonBunYou · 05/01/2016 20:23

My ex used to earn £15,000 a year and he paid £130 a month. Now he pays £150 so I'm assuming his wage went up but don't know what to.

I think you should definitely bring it to their attention as he should be paying what the law says you are entitled to. They will get in touch with HMRC so he can't lie about it

Sunbeam1112 · 05/01/2016 20:56

Thankyou guys. Didn't want to come off abit greedy but it doesnt seem to go very far in the cost of things. Wasn't until speaking to others they suggested getting reassessed. I contacted csa and they said the last assessment was 2014 when he changed jobs to lower income but no assessment was mean when hes go back to his former job.so they are going to request recent pay slips.

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SoapandGloryisDivine · 05/01/2016 21:56

I could be wrong, but if his wages have gone up again, wouldn't they backdate it to when his wages went up and he'll have to start paying a higher amount in order to pay the arrears? It's up to him to report those changes.

Sunbeam1112 · 05/01/2016 22:00

I'm not sure i did say he had return to his previous job over 6months ago. They are going to request several payslips.

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starry0ne · 06/01/2016 11:45

Yep I get £5 a week that doesn't mean I don't think everyone else should not pay what they do...I always say my £5 supports my DS g.pig not him ..Yes get them to re assess

Sunbeam1112 · 06/01/2016 12:14

I had it reassessed and CSA said to ex he needs to pay an extra 30pounds amonth. Not sure if they are back dating as i haven't spoken to them directly. But ex now wants to go private due to the changes in the CSA set up he wont have to pay a one off £20 set up fee then 20% of amount as monthly fee

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Fourormore · 06/01/2016 12:26

He would only have to pay the 20% monthly fee if he failed to make payments under the Direct Pay scheme.
All parents are encouraged to have private arrangements now.

CinnamonBunYou · 06/01/2016 13:09

If you can be certain he will pay every month then have a private arrangment, but if not then I would just stick with CMS.

My ex asked me the same thing because with backdated arrears and the 20% fee on top of the £150 he paid to me, it was over £200 a month. I agreed on the terms that as soon as he missed a payment I would re-open the case and he would be back to paying more through them. No missed payments so far but I do have to ask for the money every month which is annoying but he always puts it in as soon as I ask.

The 20% fee has to be paid whether a payment is missed or not and you will have 4% deducted from the amount you recieve as well.

Another negative point to a private arrangement, besides him possibly not paying, is if his wage goes up again and you are entitled to more money then you won't get what you are entitled to.

Sunbeam1112 · 06/01/2016 13:51

I think its the fact he was sneeky about not updatig his circumstances has put me off arranging a private agreement. Im sure how it works if theres money needing to be backdated on a private agreement either.

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Lurkedforever1 · 06/01/2016 13:57

Definitely get them to investigate it again. I'm owed an absolute fortune, and get sweet fa. But that doesn't mean I think anyone else is being greedy expecting theirs! Let's face it, maintenance levels are laughable compared to the costs, so at the very least you should get the legal amount. My ex may not pay it but I don't begrudge anyone else

43percentburnt · 06/01/2016 14:08

Nope don't do a private agreement, he has proved he wants to pay you less than the legal requirement. He was quick to advise them his wages dropped! You are not being greedy (despite what he says) he however is being very greedy not letting anyone know his wages increased, working in banking I'm sure he fully understood he was meant to increase his maintenance when his wages increased.

Say you want to use CMS so there is no chance of incorrect payments being taken.

Why was the last payment delayed? Is it taken direct from his wages?

Sunbeam1112 · 06/01/2016 14:10

I dont think ex realises the cost of having children. It's as if he thinks i get money off him for nothing. When i first found out about him returning to his previous job from someone who works with him,i meantioned it to his DW and her face dropped and immediately meantioned the change wouldnt affect the maintence but i was actually expressing my concern that i wasn't aware of his employment details should i need to contact him in a case of an emergency. I left it but as DS gets older its getting more expensive.

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Sunbeam1112 · 06/01/2016 14:13

They said the last payment was delayed due to all the bank holidays so was fault on their part rather than ex partner as he paid on the 23rd but by the time the payment is proccessed it can take a while.

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Fourormore · 06/01/2016 15:41

The CMS don't back date and you'd only get an increase if he pay goes up by 25% gross per year or when it is reassessed on the yearly assessment date.

Sunbeam1112 · 06/01/2016 16:30

I contacted csa yesterday and spoke to them today has been reassessed at y request as he failed to inform them of a different job they dont account for 5% increase this was disclosed from the operator handling the case.

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Ann07 · 07/01/2016 12:16

Im supposed to get £3.50 per week and dont even get that lol
Your not greedy at all im glad to see other mums get a decent amount xx
Get what u can while u can as u can never predict what could happen in the future eg he can quit his job xx

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