Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

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Solo Fri 01-Jan-16 15:12:46

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

LINK TO THE FIRST THREAD

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep Fri 01-Jan-16 23:09:25

just what I am looking for. I think I popped into the old thread a couple of times.

Solo Sat 02-Jan-16 01:57:59

Hello and welcome smile I have a rubbish memory, so c an't remember if I've seen your nn before or not.

Elfieselfie Sat 02-Jan-16 14:58:44

Happy New Year all smile

megletthesecond Sat 02-Jan-16 15:06:15

Hi all. Hope the year has started ok.

We're about to go town to spend xmas vouchers. It will involve whinging.

Solo Sat 02-Jan-16 16:07:21

Happy New Year!!

I haven't been dressed this year yet! Let alone gone shopping! Need to get myself into gear and do something...back to work on Monday sad

PrizeyPrize Sat 02-Jan-16 18:06:23

Happy new year everyone! Still at DPs heading home tomorrow. Hope you've all had a great time, I have but if I'm honest now looking forward to bit of normality with no tinsel or hangovers!

Evening all,

do you ever get used to the difference? To your own company? I am so bored because I cant focus and just feel so odd right now.

Back to work on Monday too sad

megletthesecond Sat 02-Jan-16 22:06:34

isabella I'm ok with my own company when the dc's behave and go to bed nicely. It allows me some thinking and reading time, it feels ok then. But when they're running riot til late then I feel more isolated and want to run away. I've been a lp for 7yrs though so I might be used to it or simply resigned to it.

changeoflife Sun 03-Jan-16 08:11:34

Happy New Year! I started to post just before Xmas but then things got crazy busy and I didn't manage to get on here until now. Back to work tomorrow. Not sure if I'm pleased because we get back the structure in our lives, or dreading it for the same reason!!

Maybe the reason its so raw is because its so new to me meglet. Its only been two weeks.

There is so much going on in my head and that I need to sort, when really I just want to crawl back under the duvet. I can't though. Three DC's to care for and H has an appointment with a solicitor on Tuesday.

changeoflife Sun 03-Jan-16 11:33:04

Isabella, be kind to yourself. If it's only two weeks then you are still in the throes of the awful nightmare. I could barely function after two months, let alone two weeks!! Just go through the motions, dress & feed the children. Don't expect too much of yourself. You need time to grieve. I am 3 years on and still have days where I struggle. I just soldier on through to the next day and hope that it will get better. Invariably it does.

Have you got a solicitor appointment?

Thanks Change. I am going to make one this week. H has contact with several through work so he found it much easier to make an appointment.

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep Sun 03-Jan-16 19:01:07

two weeks is nothing. you will not have developed the routines yet and it will all be new and strange. I remember it taking several weeks for it all to settle down and become normal. Still not got used to taking the bins down after five years... but that is the last thing.

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep Sun 03-Jan-16 19:02:22

beans on toast as a main meal featured frequently at first. still a good stand by

megletthesecond Sun 03-Jan-16 21:58:30

isabel that's such early days for you. Give it time, winter doesn't help either. You'll find your feet flowers.

PrizeyPrize Sun 03-Jan-16 22:06:16

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PrizeyPrize Sun 03-Jan-16 22:08:55

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Klaptout Sun 03-Jan-16 22:14:27

Hello all, I will be glad when we get some semblance of routine back to be honest. Christmas and new year have been tough, being on duty 24/7 wears me out.

Solo Mon 04-Jan-16 00:52:15

Hello all grin Glad to see new people too smile Welcome!! thanks

Are you all back to work/school today?

My middle DS has severe ASD and hates Christmas and the change in routine, so he is definiteoly glad that the Christmas is over (except for the extra chocolate).

Solo Mon 04-Jan-16 11:01:50

I'm back to work this afternoon and Dd back to school on Wednesday. I'm definitely not looking forward to it. She's not looking forward to school either!

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep Mon 04-Jan-16 13:58:52

isabella, have you been over to the goose and carrot? not if many of the regular drinkers are single as well. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs_chat/2538941-New-Year-at-the-Goose-and-Carrot-1-1-16?msgid=58449763#58449763

PrizeyPrize Mon 04-Jan-16 19:54:28

Hi everyone, kids back tomorrow so we've marked the last day of holidays with swimming and pizza and it's been lovely. However, I cannot bloody wait for tomorrow blush. Just to have an hour of not hearing 'mummiiiiiiieeee' followed by either 'where is my....' 'Can I have a snack' 'she called me....' 'He hit me' 'I'm bored' 'what's for dinner' 'Can I have another quality Street?', I could go on. I'm really fraying at the edges, it's so tiring. But the cuddles are wonderful, I must say. Anyone else's fuses about to blow?

Thanks Black. I do pop in now and again although I am not a regular smile

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