I left the marital home last day or two of May.
From what I can work out - i.e., changes of mood/dressing nicely/dropping of contact with kids - he met a new woman about 6/7 weeks ago (!). OK, whatever.
Then I found out that during his last residential contact 11th July that he introduced our kids to her kids and they all went to her house. This was less than 24 hours after during handover I told him that DS1 has been referred to a therapist and the schools have begun an assessment. So in a nutshell he's struggling.
I've been under WA and when I found this out I put the kibosh on the next residential visit and instead allowed him contact within the home - because frankly the two pea-brains couldn't figure out between the two of them that "blending" a new family after a 10 day or so relationship was a fucking stupid idea.
He's due to have the kids this coming weekend and I simply don't think I can trust him to put their best interests at heart. They are falling apart. DS2 sleeps in my bed because he can't bear to be alone and if I'm out of eyesight he panics, DS1 is having different problems.
Now, because of WA and I'm also MARAC, I have a lot of leverage - and whilst I wish to punish him dearly for being an utter bellend - what is fair and sensible in terms of contact in light of the fact that the peabrain duo think it's OK to mix & match families?
Option 1: no contact until instructed by solicitors/courts
Option 2: Limited supervised contact in my home
Option 3: Supervised contact at "centre"
Option 4: Reduced weekend - e.g., friday night - saturday lunchtime (giving him less hours to repeat bellendedness)
Any thoughts?
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swisscheesetony · 03/08/2015 12:43
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