A week ago, my four year old told me that his father had allowed him to watch on the computer, a film of a man getting sucked up into a plane engine. I immediately rang his father and asked for an explanation and all he said was that our child clicks on these links and they watch them. He assured me it was just a grainy image, no blood or guts. I then said it was not good enough, at which point he just started screaming at me down the phone. Not the first time this kind of thing has happened. Before this, he was allowing our child to watch train crashes. All of these images are real.
Sought some advice from a helpline which thought it was serious enough to transfer me to the NSPCC. They advised I carried on challenging my child about the images and to tell the school about what had been going on. Spoke to someone at the school on Monday and they said they would arrange a meeting with my ex and someone who deals in child protection at the school. Not heard anything from school yet.
Owing to all this I have not allowed my child to visit his father tonight. I did tell his father that he could see our child at my house, but he was having none of it , put in a very unpleasant text message to me.
I suspect his father has mental health issues. He's been angry with me for four years now, despite attending family mediation twice. He has this idea that I am out to get him and to stop his from seeing our child. All of which makes no sense at all as he has been seeing him every other weekend and one evening a week for well over a couple of years now. I think he's depressed but my priority is our child. What do I do now? My child also told me tonight that his father's kitchen has dust and rats in it.
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tickertyboo · 04/12/2014 22:25
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