Ds dad is being difficult. Hes abusive mentally, lotsof blaming and gaslighting etc the reason we split. Social services advised me to get him risk assessed by cafcass before he ever has him alone.
Hes been on n off with contact, last one was last month. He hasnt contributed a penny and refuses the contact centre. Then vanishes for a few weeks comes back, sees ds then the cycle repeats. Hes in n out when it suits him.
Hes pulling allsorts of tricks to try to get his way: coercing, lovebombing, guilt trips, silent treatment...
he wants me to go against advice n give unsupervised contact and overnights now no questions asked.
I proposed supervised until he proves he can meet ds needs, get to know him and that i can trust him with him. Then to increase that contact til its unsupervised. He refused.
He wants it all right now, on a plate, wont wait wont agree with anything i say its his way or the highway.
I said well can you at least take it to court. No. He cant afford it cos hes trying to get back his other dc (who hes been denied contact to by his ex). He doesnt see why he has to. Ds is half his so he should get what he wants. he then goes on to rant about women n how soon therell be no dads in the world cos mothers will get rid of them etc etc etc
Ive tried to meet him halfway he doesnt have pr so legally i didnt have to do any of this but i wanted my ds to have his dad. Its now back to silent treatment again. Eventually he'll turn up with the disney dad act til his hate all builds up and he has another outburst.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Surely a RP is not expected to keep giving out chances when they just get it thrown back in their face?
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How do you sort contact with a dad who wont budge? (Long post sorry)
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honey86 · 24/08/2014 18:51
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