Desperate and pushed in a corner

[AC786]

I have not been living with my husband for several months due to awful living conditions with my in laws. He'd been out if work but said that when in a job, we would move in together. We have a young child. Now he is saying that he won't live with me until he has time alone with our child. He has not been so interested before. What do I do?

[cestlavielife]

doesnt make sense...does he see your child now? how often and when? where do you live now? do you want to be separate or together?

it is good for a parent to spend time alone with their child.

[AC786]

I'm with my parents and we were meeting at the weekends but now he says he wants to see our child alone. We were meant to live together once he finds work but now he says he won't until he has our child alone and then he'll see. He also wants to take her to his family. I asked about me coming too and he said no.

To be honest, he has not been too interested in taking her before. And now I feel rather blackmailed and he is saying that if I don't, he will get the law involved. I have suggested that we look to finding a place together so that we can be together etc and he says no.

I lived with his mother and she was awful to me. He has not acknowledge. The two of them always ganged up on me.

Every time I try to talk to him he hangs up or runs away. I keep saying that whatever I have been through, it is best that our child lives with both her parents and is given that opportunity. The two of us have never actually lived together as we were with mother in law.

[AC786]

Plus he has her passport which he refuses to give to me. He says that I may leave the country...TBH I would not even have thought it. I have a full time job and reliant on the income. The fact that he said that makes me think that he may.

[cestlavielife]

It does not sound like you like him.
Get some legal advice about a divorce.
Get the passport back.

But you will need to let child see their father .

[bushey1975]

I wouldn't let him see the child alone. Something is amiss, definitely. X

[bushey1975]

I wouldn't let him see the child alone. Something is amiss, definitely. X

[bushey1975]

I wouldn't let him see the child alone. Something is amiss, definitely. X

[bushey1975]

I wouldn't let him see the child alone. Something is amiss, definitely. X

[Keepcalmanddrinkwine]

I agree, don't trust him. I'm sorry.

[ThistleDoMeNicely]

Do not trust him. Couple of things to think about:-

Do you have your daughters birth certificate? If not go and get a duplicate copy.

Personally I would report the passport as lost/stolen (you are the RP so perfectly within your rights). Reapply and request that only your details are linked to the passport so no one can cancel it apart from you.

Is the child benefit in your name? If you don't claim for it do so now, if it's in your husbands name contact the child benefit office and speak to them about how to change this into your name.

I would suggest getting some legal advice for now and I wouldn't be allowing one on one contact until all of the above was done and I had been advised by a professional.

[starlight1234]

Is there a possibility he would take her out the country and not return?

I agree I would cancel passport and get passport in your name.

Get legal advise. He will get contact. It does seem for whatever reason he doesn't want to live with you. He is pushing you out the picture.

He will have PR as you are married. so be very careful letting him see her alone till things are sorted

[greeneggsandjam]

He wants to see your child alone and he wont give you back her passport?

Do not let him see her alone. Just about to say ring passport people and say its lost then either get a new one of don't bother for now but I see other people are suggesting the same.