Do any of you do internet dating?

[perceptionreality]

What are the red flags you would warn against?

[theuncivilservant79]

God where to start!

Men who only make contact during working hours are likely to be married

[yummytummy]

Also if they start up the sex talk early they only want a casual shag rather than a relationship

[UncrushedParsley]

Also, just contact you late at night, presumably when the partner is in bed....have a good look at profile pics. The 'selfies' can give a lot away. Amazed how many men take pics in a bedroom with mucho evidence of female occupation. Men who just give 'UK' as their location. Men who just want to talk smut. Many more . Having said that, am with DP who I met OD just over a year ago :)

[MozzchopsThirty]

Avoid:

Men who don't tell you much
Men who tell you too much
Men who send pics of their penis

I find OD really fun and met current boyf on there

[theuncivilservant79]

Yy to the above.

However I met dp online and things are good. I reckon meeting up early on is the way forward.

[Letitgoletitgo]

Yes to all of those. But I also met DP online, together 2.5 years now :0)
In my case, ironically he was the only oerson I actually chose to message myself. All the ones that messaged me - usually while I was online as they look to see who is online and in the local area - after one thing only!
Good luck though, there are some good guys out there.

[ElectricalBanana]

Pick someone who has actually looked at your profile! I did a very silly profile with lots of refs to music and films I liked.

DH read it and responded with questions and more quotes from the same films etc.

He never asked for a shag

He never sent me a picture of his cock

We met 10 years ago, married now 6 years!

I wouldn't minded a picture of his cock btw - it is very nice!

[sunflowerfi]

I have been doing it on and off for about 18 months now. I have had over 20 dates and 2 brief relationships which did not work out.
Some dates have been disastrous -one of my first experiences saw me hook up with a local conman whose whole life was a lie but most its just been a case of no chemistry.
There are some cranks on there but many of my friends have met people on line so I just think there is nothing to lose having a profile on there.

[perceptionreality]

At some of these.

Why do so many men now ask us to email pictures when I have pictures online already?

[perceptionreality]

Yes I read that when the woman makes first contact there is more likely to be a relationship.

[WhyWhyWhyWhat]

I think they want pictures of you in the buff not the clothed ones you put on your profile!

[perceptionreality]

I suspected as much!

[welshnat]

If they man has only got one picture then I ask for another one so I can make sure it's definitely him, and also to make sure it's not just a really good photo and he looks completely different.

I find people who start ranting about exes within 2/3 messages should be given a wide berth.

I have a list of no-nos that I won't contact, but they probably don't count for most:

No half naked/underwear profile photos.
No main pictures in a group/with a woman.
No to only pictures with sunglasses.
No to bad grammar/spelling.
No to "Just ask me!"

I'm a fussy cow and probably explains why I'm currently single

[perceptionreality]

I always think pictures with women are dodgy!

[perceptionreality]

The thing I find difficult is getting so many messages and not knowing who you are likely to get on with in RL. So I'm always hesitant to let people have my number or meet them in RL!