im having a wobble ladies :(

(79 Posts)
misstiredbuthappy Fri 27-Jun-14 20:56:40

So fed up sick of the same old crap, skint bored very bored and lonely sad

Please tell me im not destined to spend the rest of my life with the 4 four walls to talk to when dd goes to bed please god nooooo hmm

I try to keep up beat and positive but its bloody hard sometimes. Nothing EVER changes sad

Blakey3166 Fri 27-Jun-14 22:04:49

Misstiredbunny:
I've no advice for you as I feel exactly the same- I seem to go two steps forward an 4 back-
I just wanted to give you a virtual hug and we can howl at the moon together and weep!!!

misstiredbuthappy Fri 27-Jun-14 22:14:43

Thank you blakey we can be miserable together x

Pinkballoon Fri 27-Jun-14 23:44:00

I know the feeling. sad Think going to bed early is the best solution! Less time to think! sad

equinox Sat 28-Jun-14 07:09:31

Poor you to feel that bad.

How about watching a good film on the box or reading a novel something to escape into? Or listening to some good music? Try to find a good hobby you can comfortably do which is quality me time even if it is just one hour a night once you are fully on your own and caught up with other chores too. Just recently I have been buying a cd down our local market for £4 and listening to the current flavour that week being Dolly Parton (sorry lol) and having a little dance even in my bedroom and singing along. That way it doesn't cost the earth and it is at least therapeutic.

HTH.

FinallyGotAnIPhone Sat 28-Jun-14 21:49:30

I used to spend every night surfing the internet then I tried braking bad (got obsessed) then game if thrones... How about something like that ? (Just trying to be incredibly practical... I know it's hard though :-( ).

misstiredbuthappy Sun 29-Jun-14 18:22:35

Thats what ive been doing pink how boring though !

equinox ive got the breaking box set I love it. I love buying books of amazon they keep me entertained most of the time smile

I love breaking bad but not sure if I would like game of thrones finaly any other good series ?

FinallyGotAnIPhone Sun 29-Jun-14 20:03:38

Honestly on paper GOT is not in a million years something I'd go for (e.g. I have always refused to watch Lord of the Rings...fantasy/ make believe not really my bag) but I gave it a go and quickly got hooked!! I think most people say the same. I've heard Orange is the New Black and House of
Cards are good I think they're both on netflix.

gatofeliz Sun 29-Jun-14 20:43:16

Try 'Revenge' on box set.

Once you start you wont stop!

Oh god I feel the same at the moment. Feel really down in the dumps. I seem to work so hard, scrabble together all money that is needed (just about) and do things with ds. I feel like I have absolutely no real life anymore a part from the one I share with ds, which is great, but my only real pal seems to be 2 1/2. I have friends etc but they all are settled down and understandably don't want to trek out to my house in the evening. My family are wonderful but it's night time that is awful. I don't ever see myself meeting anyone at the moment and to be honest seem to becoming ever more isolated.

Mrsgrumble Sun 29-Jun-14 20:55:04

These are old so don't laugh but there are some mini series on YouTube.

Bangkok Hilton with a young Nicole Kidman - brilliant series
Brides of Christ

Maybe they are not your scene but I loved them and they kept me going while on maternity leave

misstiredbuthappy Sun 29-Jun-14 21:17:03

Thanks girls ill have a look for some of them !

Same her indians thats exacly how I feel I work look after dd, entertain dd , she makes me laugh and we have fun dont get me wrong but at the end of the day shes 5 I want adult conversations sometimes too.

All of my friends either have no kids so they dont understand or they have partners. Feel like my life is passing me by, I feel much older than I am.

FinallyGotAnIPhone Sun 29-Jun-14 21:18:58

OP have you been a lone parent for long? Do you get any additional support / any time to yourself at all?

Blakey3166 Sun 29-Jun-14 21:27:57

Misstiredbunny- I'm not sure there is a soloution here- but I feel very isolated too. I seem to be at work or home with ds.
Money is tight, enough, and a little room for fun, but that fun involves kid stuff like kids film at cinema, parks, play centres! I'd love to splash the cash on cocktails but I'd be lone drinking! Lol
At the moment I'd be very happy with female company to totally bitch over men, but I guess watching shite tv is still probably healthier lol!
It's dull- and I don't see it changing for a long long time- but I live in hope x

misstiredbuthappy Sun 29-Jun-14 21:33:12

Raised dd on my own from day 1 was in a relationship for about a year when dd was 2 but it fizzled out. Dd doesnt see her dad. I get the day to myself on a monday as its my day of and dd is in school. My mum doesn't live that far away but shes got her own health issues. Dd stays overnight at my mums every 2 or 3 months.

misstiredbuthappy Sun 29-Jun-14 21:34:30

Oh god im having a right moan tonight.Sorry. blush

misstiredbuthappy Sun 29-Jun-14 21:38:20

I dont think theirs a solution either blakey we just have to carry on. I feel stupid for moaning now as im I'm not the only one that feels the way I do.

sunflowerfi Sun 29-Jun-14 21:46:10

I have been on my own for two years. To be honest its been such a relief after getting rid of a horrible emotionally abusive ex that I have not really felt the loneliness until very recently. I was stuck in a crap relationship so long that being on my own was a breath of fresh air. However, lately I have started thinking how it would be nice to have a decent partner who I actually want to spend quality time with once the kids are in bed.
I have plenty to keep myself occupied in the evening as I am studying a beauty course and have lots of assignments but once the kids are in bed I am so tired I just want to chill.

Blakey3166 Sun 29-Jun-14 21:46:53

Misstiredbunny- don't be sorry- I'm exactly same mood, I posted a thread for advice tonight due to a problem ex has created- the bloke never learns(see am I wrong help quick)
We will carry on- we have no choice, but reading these threads keeps me sane and reading the dating thread! It's all a bloody headache- I'm becoming a nun, I swear.i consisder I'm so switched on too, I done everything correctly how I was brought up and ask myself how did I get into this hole :-(

The worst of it is, I don't even bloody like watching tv. There's never anything on it I like and I can't focus on reading at the moment. Sooo, I'm off to bed. Again! Because there's fuck all else to do.

Blakey3166 Sun 29-Jun-14 22:01:24

Indiansinthelobby-pmsl pmsl - I'm a bit same- don't really like all the rubbish on tv either but past week or so can't put my mind to the books I've got to read!
Same here- off to bed- bah bloody humbug ! X

FrontForward Sun 29-Jun-14 22:03:37

thanks for you OP. It is rubbish

FinallyGotAnIPhone Sun 29-Jun-14 22:06:25

thanks OP.
Don't forget you're amazing.

misstiredbuthappy Sun 29-Jun-14 22:07:39

I normaly go to bed too super early but ive got a friggin cough thanks to dd so as soon ad I lie down im cough cough cough.

Just had some good news though my friends aunty hasa caravan up the coast and she said I can go and stay In it with dd for free smile going to go up there when kids break up. Nice little break will do us good.

McPhee Sun 29-Jun-14 22:12:07

That's fab news. I'm a lone parent too, and am taking 2 yr old dd away on a caravan holiday in September. Can't wait to get away for a week.

I spend my evenings pretty much the same as you, but I'd not go back to where we were now. Ex was a money sucking parasite.

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