My partners ex's messing with the kids brains.

[Scotastic]

Wondering if someone could advise me. I have met a wonderful woman seperated approx 8 months with 2 children, boy aged 11 and daughter age 6. We have been together for about 5 months and def want to be together. The young lad has serious behaviour problems, shadowing his father's horrendous behaviour towards her. She recently took them to see their father who lives in Spain and the 1st week he didn't bother with either of the kids. When he eventually did see them, he has promised the children that when I'm out the way, they will be a family again. He has been aggressive and manipulative and when he doesn't turn up they take it out on her.. They have mentioned not wanting me round any more, where as before the holiday we got on really well.. We are expecting a real backlash from them. She is talking about getting a court injunction after he was playing her son off against her, knowing full well he was grounded for earlier behaviour telling him to ignore her and for him to jump out a window 25ft high and he would catch him.. I want to do the best by them all and am stuck between my love for her and her kids being effected by this guy who in my opinion shouldn't be let near kids full stop.

[fussymummy]

If he lives in spain, don't take them to see him again.
He doesn't sound like he'll bother coming to see them anyway.
If she's happy with you and definately has no intention of getting back with him then she should try to get a court order preventing him being near to them.
What sort of caring parent tells a child to jump out of a window?
Sounds like you need to rebuild your relationship with the kids.
It'll take time, but if you're planning on staying together as a family at some point, then it'll be worth whatever effort you put in now.
Good Luck.