Hello all.
Life has been a bit bumpy in our house recently, Mostly due to outside influences and interference from his immediate family, but end result is my husband is just blanking me and our ds age 3. We have moved out the family home and dont have a key to old house, although most our belongings are still there.
I live away from my family (had lived with his inlaws before now), and well apart from the shock and fear, im having hard time with feeling guilty that I cant get ds' s daddy to contact ds. Hes never taken full responsibility for ds care, and used his career as an excuse but this silence is the worst and im heartbroken, for me and ds. Ds keeps saying hes missing his daddy (although calls him by his name n not daddy anymore??), but his dad just seems incapable of making contact, or when he promises to he never arrives. He doesn't have any substance issues, although he has had mental health problems in the past. I just dont understand why he is doing this to ds its so cruel.
All I seem to hear is that its not unusual for men to cut off their kids, but I dont believe that can be true?? And if it is then how could I have been fooled for last 6years by someone who pretended to love us both??
What do I tell my ds? Upto now its just been that daddy is sorting out some problems at home and working hard but will be with us again soon (which was what I thought...what he said). Now its clear he has cut us off I need to know what to say to support ds.
I also work and im having really bad nightmares...hence postimg at 4 in morning when got train to catch at 8am to work.
Any advice from those who have been through this? Especially interested in knowing how to support 3year old (going on 5!) Through it all. Hes a happy well attached little boy whose really missing his dad.
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Mandysname · 30/04/2014 04:34
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