Obviously I am since my DD doesn't see her Dad.
Ooooor it could be that he's a waster who wants nothing to do with her! I have just been told that I deliberately block contact by ExHs family member.
Why is it that even though as the single parent doing everything, paying for everything, still working and basically doing the bloody best I can I am still viewed as the one in the wrong?
And then there is my ex who is probably pissed in a ditch, who doesn't pay a penny towards his child and rarely (if ever) actually works. The same man who turned up to contact drunk, the same man who said he doesn't care one bit for our child, the same bloody man that has done nothing for her in the almost 3 years since she was born.
Anyone else feel that no matter what you do there will always be those who despite all the evidence to the contrary will blame you?
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daisy0chain · 17/03/2014 19:31
oh do not worry, my ex's sister just parrots what he says too even though she knows full well he is an arse - I just do not talk to any of them, makes life easier you know?
On, I'm a 'contact blocker' too. I just ignore it and get on with raising ds. He has our contact details so hey ho. He turns up hungover every 18 months and expects to see ds for an hour in between all of his other plans. The last time he turned up he ended up shouting and swearing in ds's face (in the middle of the city centre!) so ds didn't want to see him. This, of course, was my fault 
I really don't care what he tells people now, just as long as ds is OK that's all I'm bothered about.
He still has to pay maintenance though, why should our child go without when he has two houses, monthly holidays etc. I had to go to court for it mind, when ds decided not to see him he stopped paying. The court didn't care and doubled his contribution 
Me too.
Notwithstanding violence to DD/police involvement/social services/ supervised contact ( supervised by muggins here ), therapeutic work for abusive dads/ parenting courses ordered by SS and a gradual court overseen reintroduction of unsupervised contact.
But in the imaginary world of Ex, OW and OWs family, none of that happened and poor diddums contact was blocked by evil psycho Ex wife 
At the end of the day though, you know the truth .
He's not in the UK (moved 10 years ago because he was bored). The CSA don't have jurisdiction so I had to file a REMO. 
If I'm honest it's not that she said it that annoyed me. Just that I know that she know's it's not true a ridiculous. Some people eh pfffft.
Well fellow contact blockers it's nice to know I'm not alone
Well, at the end of the day, these wankers didn't appear from nowhere. They will often have been encouraged to bloom into full wankerhood by their dysfunctional families. So, no surprises if you get some completely barking odd responses from said families....
Yup. I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall when he was told the good news He hasn't bothered to make any attempt to pay the arrears off though so back to court he goes! His family backed him up when he stopped paying, he told them that he didn't think I was grateful for his contribution [nosmileyforfuckofftwatheadex]
Honestly, your child is better off without. One loving parent tops one loving parent and a twat.
Yup, 100% dysfunctional, don't know why I'm surprised actually.
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monet don't think my ex could stay sober long enough to get that jazzy little catch phrase out
Remind us what a 'parental alienator' is. Is that when you turn your dc against the other parent although they are capable of doing this without help
Great to hear, daisy 
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