i am having a really challenging time.... my dd hasn't slept well for months. it has been getting worse, and she had been getting up many times a night for her dummy, so this week i decided to do away with it (shes 2.5). its been awful... sleep has got worse and ive resorted to calpol temporarily (don't worry i am not going to be doing this every night, more like when im totally desperate) to get a better few hours sleep. i hope its just her getting used to not having the dummy and she will begin to settle again, but she is wanting to start her day at 3am etc. at the minute i go into her room and lie down with her till she falls asleep. if it continues i think i will get a stair gate to go across her door and do some form of cio although ive never been a fan of this approach and never really done it with dd ( i did a lot of pick up put down type approaches)
anway the other thing is her behaviour. its just the normal terrible 2s, but everything is a fight, everything is no, im doing all the right things by picking my battles and letting her do what she can herself but i am just finding things SO wearing between that and the sleep. i feel so depressed sometimes! and anxious! i don't want to go on antiD, been on different types before and they all kill any motivation i have left to do anything.
i just needed to offload i guess. my car broke down too and today my ex came to pick dd up and was late and i lost my temper with him. she had been crying at the door etc and he made stupid excuse about traffic, and i said he should leave enough time for traffic, and he said him being late was 'trivial'. yeah, i know its kind of trivial but not when youve had the night like ive had, when dd is crying at the door, and when given his history of being late he has slept in and forgotton 3 times before causing me to be late for work, so i was ready to get the pram and start walking. i feel awful for losing my temper as i had promised myself i was always going to remain calm and collected and maintain the higher moral ground when dealing with him, but it just didn't happen this morning, and of course being angry and upset makes you even more tired.
anyway writing this is more for my sake to get it out than anything else, but thanks for listening. i just wish things would get easier....this age is a killer i am finding my dd so so demanding and honestly it would put me off having another if i had the opportunity even though i would have liked more.
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muser31 · 27/02/2014 09:14
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