This is my first Christmas as a LP, and decided I wanted to make it as easy as possible for DS to see both parents on Christmas Day. I offered for ex to stay over Christmas Eve (lives 2.5 hours away), and then take DS to his parents after Christmas dinner. He turned down this suggestion because he would feel awkward which is fair enough.
So I suggested him picking DS up either just before dinner or just after and keeping him until 27th. Again he turned this down because of the amount of driving he would have to do on Christmas day which I understand.
So I offered for him to come to mine after dinner and he can have DS in my house overnight and I would spend the night in my dad's. He would then take him home boxing day and have a second Christmas Day with his parents. This again has been turned down.
He has now decided that he will pick DS up early on boxing day. I understand all of the reasons he doesn't want to do any of my suggestions BUT I couldn't imagine not seeing DS on Christmas Day at all. Next year the arrangements will be reversed and DS will be up his dad's for Christmas Eve and I will have him in the afternoon. I don't drive so between now and then I am hoping to learn, but if not I will stay in a hotel Christmas Eve, spend the day with DS in his dad's and then back to the hotel Christmas night - leaving DS at his dad's. And head back to ours on Boxing Day by train.
I would never say anything to ex as I know he will feel guilty not seeing DS anyway, but am I wrong to feel sorry for DS that he won't get to see his dad on Christmas Day. At the moment he is only 1.10 so he won't notice, but in future, won't he be upset by this?
Sorry this ended up being an essay, so thank you if you've read it all. Does anybody else have experience of this? Or any advice?
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welshnat · 25/11/2013 13:44
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