Quick background ExH left me for OW who was mum to another DC in DD's class. Other DC then pinch and punched my DD over about 3 month period, but it was eventually after I told ExH he had to man up it stopped. ExH and OW continually treat the DC differently and will tell them important things at different times leading to I know something you don't know type behaviour.
I have expressed concern about them remaining in the same school (though they are now in different classes) and am actively pursuing this despite ExH and OW being vehemently against this and criticising my decision to anyone who will listen. They believe the girls are 'best friends'.
So tonight I have had an email from school saying could I go into school as my DD has been 'unkind' to the other DC and is involving other children - lets face it, it is consistent and targeted so it is bullying isn't it. I am of course going to go into school and see them and will work with school to stop this.
Previously experience tells me that under OW's influence ExH will believe that's hers and his behaviour having nothing to do with this and that it is all my fault. I have never criticised them to DD and I have not in anyway alluded to DD that their relationship existed before we split.
What I think may have precipitated this behaviour is that I now struggle to attend school events as sometimes OW is there with ExH and sometimes she is there with her H who knows everything! I find the hypocrisy of the situation so upsetting and I also suffer anxiety attacks about it. I am a very private person and find that the whole playground is speculating about my life really distressing. Even school have described the situation as intolerable and they support me removing DD as they feel some distance would help. I have tried for 18 months to attend events hold my head up high and maintain my dignity, but I can't do that any longer.
I have worked so hard outside of school to build a new life and I don't suffer in any other situations ( I run my own business employing 17 people).
I am upset DD has done this, but do believe she is capable of it as I think she is just so mixed up. She has counselling at school, so that is being done.
Could I have avoided this should I have done anything different. What would you do now?
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Lonecatwithkitten · 12/11/2013 19:15
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