I'll try to keep this brief and to the point!
DD was promised some time ago by ExH's girlfriend that she could have a pamper party for her forthcoming 9th birthday (as her friend does them for a living). DD was very excited at the prospect as she has been to lots of her friends' parties this year and was looking forward to celebrating her birthday with them in return.
Fast forward to yesterday and ExH has told DD that she can only invite 4 friends as the pamper party can only be for a maximum of 6 girls and his girlfriend's DD MUST be one of them. Wouldn't be an issue if a) our DD actually got on with the girlfriend's DD, or b) girlfriend's DD is only 4 years old ( which, IMO, isn't a suitable age to attend a pamper party with a group of 9-10 year olds.
DD now doesn't want the party as she's having trouble whittling her guest list down to just four of her friends without upsetting anyone, let alone not really wanting to sacrifice a friend's place for a 4 year old she doesn't really connect with. She now wants to go back to my original plan of a disco party at a local community centre so more of her friends can come - this was something I'd suggested to her long before the ExH's girlfriend offered the pamper party instead.
What do I do? DD is scared of telling her dad that she doesn't want the party now in fear of upsetting him/his girlfriend or making them angry. But she also deserves to have a party she'll enjoy - not one that's been organised to help ExH's girlfriend's friend with her business, nor one that HAS to include someone she doesn't really deem suitable to be there,
If I say anything directly to ExH about it, I know I'll be seen to be the jealous ExW who doesn't want his girlfriend organising our DD's party (seriously not jealous at all - she's very welcome to him!).
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Prforone · 04/11/2013 23:37
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