So, after 12 years (well, longer if you add the time spent pregnant), DD's father has finally accepted that she's biologically his daughter (it only took three DNA tests ) and a meeting is arranged this coming weekend.
He is now married with two daughters of his own (one toddler, one baby). His wife seems very nice and has, I believed, played a large role in facilitating this meeting.
DD has obviously been very curious about her father and wanted to meet him. Now she's almost a teenager, I've worried that she will google him, find his address and rock up on his doorstep, so I wrote to him earlier this year, stating that she wanted to meet him, and actually got a response.
Backstory: I was 18 when I got pregnant (he was 23). He made it very clear he wanted me to have an abortion and wanted nothing to do with DD. The last time I'd seen him (prior to the last few months when meeting to organise contact) was when I got pregnant. DD has never met him, spoken to him or had any contact whatsoever. She has seen photos of him but that's it. He has also never paid a penny towards DD (but I guess that's a whole other thread).
Anyway, he seems quite keen to meet DD. She is nervous but curious. We are meeting en masse (with his kids and wife, so that the focus isn't entirely on DD).
Has anyone any experience of how to handle this? All I've said is for DD to try to not have any expectations, but of course this is easier said than done.
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DD (12) is meeting her father for the first time this weekend. Any advice/experience?
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FreckledLeopard · 14/10/2013 17:37
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