Does it get better? :(

(6 Posts)
HopLittleFroggiesHopHopHop Mon 23-Sep-13 21:20:18

I'm sat here feeling completely ill and exhausted, got DD to sleep at 7, rushed around tidying up toys then she decided to get up, bit me three times when I tried to feed her back to sleep, crawled off the mattress (as she won't sleep unless co-sleeping) and is now flinging toys around the living room that's worse than its original state.

I tidied the kitchen while tea was cooking, with DD physically hanging off my legs winging, then she threw her tea everywhere which still needs cleaning.

I feel bad for not playing with her enough because I'm trying to get things done, she won't let me leave her with anyone without getting distraught, and I can't see myself ever having the time or energy to get another relationship.

Meanwhile my ex is living with his second girlfriend since we split in pregnancy and moaning about the responsibilities of parenting on Facebook and spouting how much he 'loves his little angel' when he sees her 5-6 hours a month and drives past us every day on the way to work.

foolonthehill Mon 23-Sep-13 21:29:22

yes it does...but some days are just rubbish.

Hang on in there

scoobydooagain Mon 23-Sep-13 21:30:52

It does get better,I threw my ExH out for the last time when my ds was 16 mths, in all honesty I would say the next 3 years I took a break from my life (but this was mostly due to recovering from an abusive relationship). Now me and my son are doing great. My job is going well , I'm dating and enjoying it, my ds has started school. I am so much happier, financially I am no worse off even if maintenance only £5 per week and tax credits only pay about 1/4 of childcare. You will get there, be kind to yourself. Get the bedtime routine sorted - saying her who co-slept until a year ago! and if you don't work, look at going back to work or re-training, it was my saving grace. Plus try to let go of your ex, It wasn't until I accepted I would never understand him that I could start to move on. Good luck and please believe it gets so much better.

ProtectiveMother Tue 24-Sep-13 16:30:02

You're doing a great job Froggy and your ex is a dickhead. :-)

lostdad Wed 25-Sep-13 08:41:38

Why does your DD only see her dad 5-6 hours a month? Surely it's your ex's job to care for her rather than expecting you to do everything?

Have you told him that he should be doing his fair share so you're not left on your own? confused

HopLittleFroggiesHopHopHop Wed 25-Sep-13 23:54:08

Thanks for the replies, feeling much better again, think it all just builds up sometimes, you're right about some days just being bad!

lostdad, because he's too 'busy', most contact gets cancelled last minute or he has to leave early suddenly when he gets bored for something he's 'just remembered he has to do'.

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