Mediation - what to expect?

[Sasquatch75]

My ex is contacting Relate to set up mediation sessions... He left 7 weeks ago saying he didn't want 'this' anymore. Found out earlier this week that what he really meant was he wanted 'that' (OW)!

I've not done very well in communicating with him so far, as I have so much anger and sadness... so I think I need someone else in the room to help. What sort of thing can I expect? Will we be discussing our feelings or will it just be to talk about the DCs?

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

I was under the impression that mediation sessions were to do with trying to thrash out a financial and child contact arrangement.

Didn't think it was anything to do with Relate and I don't think Relate offer this service.

Can you ask him for more information?

[Sasquatch75]

Occupational health at his work gave him a contact name and number for someone at relate. He said he'll sort it out so I'm waiting to hear.

[Lonecatwithkitten]

IME relate and mediation are two separate services. Relate helps you discuss your relationship issues (not necessarily to stay together), mediation service helps you resolve issues of contact and finances.

[mumtobealloveragain]

I agree, two totally different things. You don't go to mediation to try and overcome your problems and get your relationship back on course. Mediation is usually family issues after separation, negotiating and (hopefully) agreeing contact patterns, finances, Maintenance etc.

[Sasquatch75]

the relationship is definitely over. we are having problems talking about the boys so need someone to help us, so what mumtobealloveragain is describing is just what we need.