Just want to introduce myself, been on my own with the girls since June when I kicked out my miserable, moody and generally inept STBXH who has since put his tail between his legs and moved out with not so much as a word on the subject. We are in the process of separating finances etc and In view of my X's attitude (apparently feels there's 'nothing to say') I have been cultivating a healthy detachment from him and ridding myself of any feelings of obligation towards him.
We have a daughter in Y6 and next week we start looking around schools. Ordinarily XH would have taken a back seat with this decision (as with pretty much all decisions regarding the dc - he could never be described as a hands on dad and sees the dc every other weekend). My dd's both have SEN which he has always taken a very 'oh well' stance with (in contrast with a lot of hard graft and advocacy and fighting put in by me) and I'm more than capable of making the right choice on my own.
I feel I can't be bothered informing him and asking him to come and view the schools with us. If he does it will be strained and affect my daughter and make an already packed schedule (I work FT) even more stressful. He would not think to ask to come and see the schools. However am mindful about being new to this single parenting lark and wonder if this is right, or whether I ought to do him the courtesy of asking if he wants to come along and see the schools. I feel it is a bit early to go along to things together because since finding out my X has 'nothing' to say about the end of 14 years of marriage I am detached.... But in a 'I would like to slash your tyres' kind of way. Any thoughts from more experienced lone parenters welcome......
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Handywoman · 20/09/2013 20:16
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