To realise you do want a bf ... How sad is it?

(11 Posts)
rainbowfeet Fri 20-Sep-13 16:28:03

Have been single for nearly 3 years & for most of it have enjoyed my free time, freedom & independence.. Of course I tell everyone I love being single & wouldn't have it any other way!.. Don't want people to look at me & think 'ah poor desperate singleton, who can we fix her up with'!! hmm
Friday afternoon preparing kids dinner with the prospect of probably not seeing another adult until Monday morning school run, I have come to the conclusion I would love to be getting ready for a date or for a live interest to be popping over tonight or any night!!! hmm How pathetic do I sound? But I think I need that warm, butterflies in tummy feeling back in my life again. That's it really just a moan that I'm too embarrassed to have in RL.

Anyone else grin

yetanotherstatistic Fri 20-Sep-13 19:58:44

`fraid not. Wild horses wouldn`t drag me into another relationship after the fiasco that was xh. Do you only feel like this when the dc are away? I've got a group of female friends that come over when I'm on my own - we have a good laugh, they moan about their husbands and that just confirms my decision.

Must say though that I do think it is brave to try to find Mr Right (or Mr Good enough) - hope if you go for it you find a man worthy of you.

RitaFajita Fri 20-Sep-13 22:30:31

Know what you mean.

Dating someone nice on my terms when I could fit them in when my DD is at her Dad's would be brilliant.

There's nothing like the excitement of seeing someone new, when you are smiling for no reason, and you have a spring in your step.

But I could not see myself ever living with someone again. I would like to be proven wrong, but I don't believe in happily ever after these days....

ProtectiveMother Sat 21-Sep-13 07:45:12

Rainbow I spent the first year of singledom wishing I had someone else, trying Internet dating etc. Now I'm only 1 year broken up and you're 3. Maybe after 3 years I'll be ready but for now I've realised I don't want a boyfriend. After the abuse etc, I'm not ready for a relationship. Trying to focus on my relationships with my mostly female friends and take care of myself. So busy. If I had a boyfriend something would have to give and I don't have anything to give at the moment. Its true though that I miss the physical closeness but I treat myself to massages by a therapist, who happens to be male ;-) Just a coincidence of course!

rainbowfeet Sat 21-Sep-13 11:53:50

Yes, absolutely agree about it being on my terms... Very casual at 1st as I do love my freedom.

I even have someone in mind but I don't know if he feels that way.. We chat when we bump into one another & the other weekend said to a married friend he should pop over to mine with her... But of course he could fancy her not me !!! wink confused

Watch this space maybe!! smile

happygolucky0 Sat 21-Sep-13 17:18:53

good luck rainbowfeet at least you have someone in mind, that has got to be half the battle. I would like someone too. I have offers but am just not attracted to them. Gosh there must be someone out there somewhere who is nice not a selfish so and so. who I can look at and think yum. Who is able to hold a job down and doesn't smoke or take drugs or lives in the pub. Am I asking too much?? lol

RoonilWazlibWuvsHermyown Sat 21-Sep-13 18:48:27

The only people I seem to attract are just more abusers. I miss the butterflies and loved up feelings and te excitement of having someone who wants to spend time with me but after the last one, I've decided to take a long long break from relationships. Maybe forever. The part that makes me saddest about this is I won't be able to give dd brothers and sisters. I wouldn't be able to do pregnancy and birth alone and by the time I do feel ready for a man maybe, ill be too old for children :/

sapphirestar Sun 22-Sep-13 20:14:06

Rainbow are you me? I could have written your post. 3 years single and I'm definitely ready to move on.
I met a bloke from eharmony today, my first date in a very very very long time and I was nervous!
Nice bloke, not sure he's for me, didn't fancy him but so pleased to have gotten myself out there. Maybe next time I'll be less nervous, and above all, I'd totally forgotten how much fun flirting is!!! I really need more flirting in my life!

rainbowfeet Mon 23-Sep-13 15:23:22

Sapphire... Well done you!

I used to be such a flirty minx but huge confidence knocks. & putting on a couple of stone has made me more mumsy than Minxy !! hmm

Am dieting & got black dress & heels lined up ready for a party that my crush (sorry couldn't think what else to call him blush) will be at... Just hope he doesn't bring a date or I have one too many Dutch courage drinks!! wine

RiotsNotDiets Mon 30-Sep-13 09:59:36

snogged him yet rainbow ?

rainbowfeet Mon 30-Sep-13 10:17:26

Lol I did on Friday... Posted Sunday how stupid I feel because he hadn't text but he did on Sunday afternoon grin

He didn't ask to see me but texts were flirty so at least he didn't wake up on sat appalled by the thought he'd snogged me! grin

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