My ex has been granted supervised contact in a contact centre, which obviously means an official person will be overseeing my lb and ex.
However, I am finding it difficult to communicate with anyone that I would want to be in the room when contact takes place. My solicitor, CAFCASS, the law, etc say any case regarding children needs to be child-centre and what is in their best interests.
My lb is only 16 months old and has NEVER met his father due to ongoing alcohol and drug misuse and am told will probably not meet the officer beforehand due to busy schedules.
I know my child, and although very sociable, he constantly looks around to see if I am there and can become very upset when I am not (i.e. gone to the bathroom). He is going through a particularly clingy stage at the moment and am trying to break this habit but feel him too young to be left completely alone i.e. at playgroups. For no other reason would he be left completely alone, so I would want to sit in on the contact sessions. Not to intervene or comment, literally just to sit and be a comfort to my lb and ease him into a new and overwhelming situation.
I would not class myself as a clingy parent and love watching him toddle of and helping his independence. I just can't understand why for no other reason would he be left alone in a strange environment with strangers, yet for this I have and am being told to change my parenting. The only person benefiting from my presence will be my son, who has to come first.
I feel like I am going mad explaining this to people who assume that the father has had a role in his life and then we have split, not realising that has never ever met him before due to his own choices.
Just looking for any support/advice on the matter as I really don't see what is so unreasonable about this. (For example, you don't just dump your child in nursery; there is a lead-in and you wait for them to feel comfortable and that is when they are 3!!!!)
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mummyt2504 · 18/09/2013 15:53
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