Just found out tonight my husband is in another country for work and he says I am being unreasonable because I am upset because he didn't tell me!

(32 Posts)
trumphy Tue 17-Sep-13 21:57:44

I messaged him today about some money stuff and he repiled "I can't find my hotel". Well I was bemused, "what?" I said. He said "I'm in Barcelona and I can't remember where my hotel is". The last he told me was that he was working on check in at the airport! He then swore at me and made out I was unreasonable because I was pissed that he hadn't let me know he was out of the country! We have kids for goodness sake. He doesn't have to fill me in on details of his every minute but for goodness sake I don't think it's unreasonable to know where he is so I can contact him incase of emergency!? I am soooooo mad right now I can't sleep. Help me please. xxxx

Sasquatch75 Thu 19-Sep-13 18:31:27

I really feel for you. It's only been a few weeks for me and to break that tie is so so hard. I'm still reeling from being lied to about why my ex left, although I now feel that it's definitely for the best and the OW is welcome to him! But yes, it's hard working on detaching yourself when you spent so long being close together. Don't beat yourself up about it xx

paperlantern Thu 19-Sep-13 19:06:45

your separated.

what he does and where he is when he doesn't have the kids really isn't your business

starlight1234 Thu 19-Sep-13 20:42:54

In the early days it is very hard...

I spoke to my Ex far too much for support but I did eventually learnt to get support elsewhere...

Less communication is better..it means less rows and less argusing...

With respect if he was like this when you were together he isn't going to be any better because you are separated..

trumphy Thu 19-Sep-13 21:57:31

I just seem to keep crying all the time and feel overwhelmed and so very very sad. Like its been mentioned we were a family unit and am no longer. It's like waking up in a bad dream everyday. It would be easier if I hated him but I don't.

And Paperlantern, I believe that's been covered. Don't think you need to bash me anymore over it. As I have also mentioned, I am still struggling to come to terms with it all. I would hope I could be a little more empathetic to someone else in a similar situation.

Chubfuddler Thu 19-Sep-13 22:22:20

I'm really sorry you're finding it so tough. It will get better I promise.

DotCottonsHairnet Fri 20-Sep-13 16:03:32

It does get easier I promise - am about 10 months down the line now. We don't speak much on the phone anymore but instead email / text if we need to be in contact.

However if it was an emergency and we needed to speak urgently then we would phone each other.

Its hard not knowing what the other is doing or where they are but again you do get used to it I promise smile

trumphy Mon 23-Sep-13 20:08:00

Thanks everyone, its such a hard hard time. I just look forward to a time when I can get through a day without thinking about him at all.

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