Gah why am I so gullible!

[Jothehorsepoo]

Its been six months since he's seen dd, two since he bothered to go on webcam with her. He's said repeatedly he has no money to come and visit (would cost £30) but would save up to come end up aug/sept. I believed him because he cried about not seeing her for so long. We haven't heard from him in a month so I do what I do every so often to check he's alive and just look at his Facebook page. Its private so all I can see is the profile pic and cover photo (he changes them a lot so I can get a rough idea of if he is still breathing or not!). And its of a massive new tattoo. So, he can afford a massive chest piece but can't afford a £30 train ticket to see his daughter.

This is more a rant then anything I guess but I just feel so fucking thick for believing him again and actually feeling sorry for him when he cried. Dd is too young to realise luckily (she doesn't even recognise his picture anymore :/ ) so isn't upset so that's one silver lining I suppose, that she isn't hurt.

Argh.

[WithConfidence]

You are not gullible, you hoped that your dd would have a father who cared about her, put her first etc.

Now is the point when you forget about him. It's good you tried to keep him involved but you can't spend your whole life trying to make him be a parent. It's easy for him to contact you if he wants to make an effort in the future. Just get on with making a good life for you and dd now.

[Jothehorsepoo]

Thank you, I think I will do that. I've tried hard to talk about him to her and show her pictures of him to try to stop her forgetting him but I think I will stop that now. Not as a punishment to him but to protect her from the moment where she realises this man I talk about doesn't care about her. I think ill take your advice and just make it about us now :)

[TheWinterOne]

I would leave the option open for him to have contact but I definitely wouldn't be doing the chasing. He has a means to contact you - it's up to him to do so.