Ex and I split in Feb 2013 after his EA and affair. We have 3 kids ds1 (12) dd (10) and ds2 (7)
Ds1 has been affected most by XH's EA but is his favourite child. He loves his dad but fully aware that he is EA and a selfish twat (his words)
Dd is his biggest fan and has inherited the best parts of him but IMO she will never become number 1 child because she is a girl.
Ds2 is indifferent to him and is often overlooked for ds1 and dd. I had to tell ex to get him a birthday pressie where as he often gets gifts for the other 2.
The kids "know" that ds1 is his favourite. Dd tries hard to please ex but I honestly think that as a girl she has no chance of being adored. (Obviously Id never tell her this!!)
Do I tell ex that he is being out of order treating the children differently? He did this while we were together but it's never been obvious to the kids. I am sick of coaching him in being a Dad and he probably won't take kindly to me telling him what he's doing wrong but I fear that the current situation will lead to self esteem issues with dd and ds2 and resentment that ds1 is the favoured one.
He sees dd every Fri evening to Sunday afternoon and the boys once a month form12 hours. This is the amount ds1 and dd want to see him.(Ds2 would prefer not to see him ever but I make him go)
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enderwoman · 12/09/2013 10:46
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