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Use our Single Parent forum to speak to other parents raising a child alone.

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Feeling lonely

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nikkie · 18/06/2006 20:15

Really feeling the lack of adult conversation today, have only talked to xh and xmil briefly when dropping /picking up kids.

Don't reallyhave many friends and they have all gone to concerts today so not even anyone to phone

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NotAnOtter · 18/06/2006 20:30

Awww thats whats Mumsnets for hun! My dp moans that i am on it and i say 'I need adult company'...get chatting!!!

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nikkie · 18/06/2006 20:37

I've been here nearly all day on and off and its been dead

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nikkie · 18/06/2006 20:39

Also I feel like I have just woken up from a very long sleep (7 years) and need to catch up on life.
IYKWIM

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mistressmiggins · 18/06/2006 20:40

hello

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nikkie · 18/06/2006 22:37

Hi, sorry missed your post mistressmiggins

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Beetle73 · 18/06/2006 22:41

Hi nikkie. Sorry you're feeling that way. I felt like that sometimes when I was living abroad and DP was back home. Hope you've managed to find some decent threads on here during the day.

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 22:45

Nikkie - I've had a tough day dealing with all thats going on with me. I'm lonely too.... and sorry to say that I actually miss H, despite whats happened.

My friends have been great phoning me etc. But I know that its so new and that once everything settles down the phone calls will probably dry up.

I know I come across to everyone as being strong and coping really well, moving on. But I'm still lonely and I still miss the times that were good.... and waiting for him to come home from work, or even just phoning him through the day on his days off whilst I'm at work, just for a no-reason chat.

I'm drinking far too much wine to try to block that out, but I don't seem to be able to find another way.

MN is fab though...when its moving.

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tortoise · 18/06/2006 22:45

I feel bit like you nikkie.Ive been here all afternoon.Spoke to xp when he picked girls up for his 3 hr contact.Boys were with there dad.It does get lonely.
I dont have anyone I can phone for a chat.

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 22:56

bump... could really do with a chat right now.

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tortoise · 18/06/2006 22:57

Hi toothache.

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mistressmiggins · 18/06/2006 22:57

hi Toothy...hows it going?

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 22:58

Hi tortoise. I've had a bad day. Fathers day and all.

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mistressmiggins · 18/06/2006 22:59

its a first without your DH
every first is crap

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 22:59

MM - 90% of the time okay...the rest not. Don't know whether I'm strong/ready be rid of him... or just blanking things. Just all over the place right now.

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Beetle73 · 18/06/2006 22:59

Hi Toothache. Tell us about something you're proud of. Tell us something funny your DC have done. Tell us anything you feel like.
Same goes for you Nikkie.

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tortoise · 18/06/2006 22:59

Sorry youv'e had a bad day.it will get better(i hope so anyway!)for all that are having a bad time at the moment.

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 23:01

MM - He only left 11 days ago.... got charged with assaulting me and is down at his parents 280 miles away. Phoned tonight absolutely steamin from a pub to speak to ds (5).

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mistressmiggins · 18/06/2006 23:02

90% OK sounds good to me considering not been long for you

long road ahead

no advice but lots of support here

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mistressmiggins · 18/06/2006 23:02

ps I have read your thread Toothy so know whats happening

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 23:03

I'm so busy worrying about the practicalities financially and the kids that I haven't really thought about me much. Until today. Ds pulled out the photo album of the 1st 6months of dds (22mths) life and we seemed to so happy then. I've been so angry about whats happened recently that I havent' thought about all the happy times we've had as a family.

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tortoise · 18/06/2006 23:09

Moneys a pain isn't it! Im skint almost all of the time and have debts to pay.
Dont miss my ex though.
My youngest is 23 mths old.

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 23:14

It's reveresed roles financially with me.... I earn more, bought the house, H's car (which was my loan), in fact everything is in my name! We only bought the house 5 months ago. My childcare and mortgage comes to £1200 per month and dues to H's earnings I'm actually only entitled to £300 per month from him. Makes me so angry, I support him for 6 years and now he can walk away entitled to half the profit from the house.... but only pay £300 per month now. That was a total shock when my solicitor told me that.

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 23:15

When did you and your ex split Tortoise?

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tortoise · 18/06/2006 23:16

We split in november.well i had to get court order to make him leave.He's being accused of assulting my 9 yr old son.

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Toothache · 18/06/2006 23:21

Oh tortoise thats awful!
With a 23 month old too.

I'm contending with a pathetic man that has been depressed for months and took it out on me violently. He's snivelling and crying to all his family and friends and I'm a monster.

I trying my best to get his bail restictions altered so he's allowed near me... purely for ds's 5th birthday next week. And he's just drinking himself stupid every night with his friends.

Do you have a court case pending re: the assualt?
Where is he now?