Hi mums and dads, whoever is reading this.
Just after some advice on your outcomes or what you think may happen please. Just need my mind at rest.
I have 2 lg 18 months B and P is 6 months. Split from their "father" when I was 3 months pregnant with P, due to infidelity the how he never contributed to I (I don't mean money he just hardly had anything to do with I) from what I've worked out from him he's just wanted the father title, getting tattoos and writing Facebook statuses makes him a dad, he's never put in hard work or any work for that matter with them.
We split September last year. We had brief reconciliations till feb/march. Through out the relationship and even when we split there was a lot of mental abuse, emotional abuse, and 2 cases of violence. Once infront of I and the other while I had hold of P. inbetween those two times he's tried to kill himself twice. There is a lot more to the story but they are the main issues.
I have told me health visitor about both times, the second time she referred it to SS first they said for him not to have contact and I had too be in with my mum and dad as want was more at risk army house. They have done a core assessment into his family which reveal more history of violence involving his mum and his other brother and sisters and all the dads that have been involved in there family and SS are using that as an excuse for his actions. He is under going therapy from trying to kill himself.
I have sought out legal advice as he is writing and plastering all over social networks saying that I'm a bitter mum, that I'm using the children etc. I'm too scared to go out. I have applied for an injunction and waiting for a date at the minute from courts for this hearing.
However he has apparently he is awaiting court date of child contact, or shared residency whatever he is going for. I believe he is doing this as a point against me because he knows how to hurt me. He is my safe around my children, I'm terrified of him.
They're are certain authorities involved SS - they have closed they're case now as they are happy with all the safe guarding I have done for the babies. Women's aid, the police have the propety and my contact number flagged. I have all the texts that go up until April which involve involve threats against my life, removing the babies, threats against my family. And the photos of the bruising from the first time he was aggressive towards me.
I feel like this has scarred me for life. He can do what he wants to me but not to the babies. I've tried making arrangements with the children when I was in hospital for 2 months with P (when I was pregnant) and he practically spent a few hours once a week with I and she was under the care of my mum and dad.
Anyway, he says he has applied for a date on his Facebook and I've told
My solicitor about this but she's not heard anything. So I've no idea what's he's doing? SS want me to apply for a prohibited steps order. But solicitor said that's opening the child contact open for him then and we need to wait for him to apply for his side of the things so we can shop off his menu basically.
I've kept everything and I'm screen shotting all of the Facebook statuses, and twitter ones his family and him are making. Putting my babies in the limelight.. With Lies. It knocks me sick.
My dad has to do my shopping for me cause I can't go out and do it myself incase I run into him or his family or someone he knows.
SS did a core assessment and he is suppose to be going 20 weeks worth of therapy for "uncontrollable outbursts of rage" and it never got to a stage with SS for them to take the babies off me. It was about helping me keep them safe, and they have helped me so well.
I'm just wondering what access you think he will get? Having such a low day? Slagging my family off and me for the whole town to see. Everyone believes him. He's rallying so many people round him.
Please help.
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mumof289 · 18/07/2013 12:25
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