Dating again...

(9 Posts)
mama2moo Sun 12-May-13 18:46:20

So, I have met someone! He has no children and I have 2.

My main worry - My body is not what it was before I had children. I dont think he has dated anyone who has had children before.

How do you overcome the body issue thing after being with someone who didnt care because the children were his IYWIM?

TheBakeryQueen Fri 17-May-13 20:19:12

Well I know it's easier said than done, and I'm yet to be in this position (not started dating yet) but confidence is sexy isn't it?

I bet he won't notice the things you notice.

lizabeth0607 Sat 18-May-13 13:10:31

Don't be silly, if he likes you, he will not notice the flaws we are constantly worrying about! smile

SnoopyLovesYou Sun 19-May-13 08:22:07

You have to learn to love your body. I felt exactly the same!!!! I don't have a new partner yet but my attitude has taken a 360• turn. If you have Facebook, like the page called 'Everyday Feminism.' It has really helped me to love and appreciate my body for what it 'does' and for being 'healthy.' Not how my stretch marks look. Because they aren't going away anytime soon!

Fizzerly17 Sun 19-May-13 08:58:22

I wouldn't worry to much, in the clinches on passion do u ever really pay much attention to flaws on another persons body, I know I don't.

Also as a Newly singleton myself I have become more aware of the fact that men are conscious too shock who knew? My ex was very proud of his bod (and with fairness so he shud of been) but not all men are. He's probably just as scared as u seeing him in the buff as u are of him

Only advice would be don't be forced into it until your really and don't let your body hang ups ruin it. I don't have a perfect body, in fact my child ruined my stomach lol. But I'm proud of every stretch mark and wobble since it was my child who created them. And if any man every commented on it. My two words would be "jog on"

Be proud and good luck xxx

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 22-May-13 19:14:24

Let us know how it goes!! ;-)

grungegrrrl Thu 23-May-13 15:34:43

Ikwym about confidence with your body. I am seeing a (much younger!) guy who has no children and is used to younger women who are size 8, I expressed my fears to him and he laughed. He actually said he cant even believe it ever crossed my mind, which made me feel so much better about myself. Like bf told me, he likes you for YOU, not because of or lack of wobbly bits! Good luck and try to relax!

chocoreturns Tue 28-May-13 19:01:02

I saw a pic of a girl with stretch marks from childbearing on FB (where else?) and she was in a warrior pose with the caption 'My body has not been ruined. I'm a goddamn tiger and I earned my stripes'

Amen!

TheBakeryQueen Wed 05-Jun-13 22:17:34

Mama2moo please come back & update!

Been thinking recently, as happy as I am being single, am I even date able as a single mum of 3?

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