Ds is going for his first overnight at the weekend.
I've told his dad his normal routine and will pack a few things he will need. Is it better to have some familiar stuff from home (pjs, books etc) to make the link between the two houses or should I insist ex sorts these out himself?
Yeah I would agree to just ask, if in doubt though send it. I remember going to court in regards to contact and in my ex's statment it said that the pyjamas I sent for contact was dirty, the judge jumped on this and suggested if this was the worst accusation they could come up with then i must be doing a good job with 5 kids, the judge then ordered that they provide all pyjamas and not me so that saved me a job haha. but i do still send a bag for each childs change of clothes for the day after.
I have issues with his dad not stepping up and not providing food, nappies (the list goes on...). He is happy to be a dad as long as it involves very little work on his part and plenty of adoration. However, I want ds to feel comfortable. It is so tricky. I will send stuff this time and if it goes well and becomes a regular thing I think I will make it clear he needs to provide some things for him.