Hi I would like advice As can't find it on line! Presently my ex has our 14 month daughter when I work two days a week he picks her up first thing plays with her for 5 min or so then drives her to his place for brekfast! He also does this once every two weeks to give me a day off!!! Do you think it's ok to take her before her breakfast almost feels wringing whipping her off??? Also he wants to start divorce proceeding I don't think I'm entitled to legal aid and I have no idea where to start! He has a very good pension that I'd like to claim for some of it to help me bring up our daughter. Advice appreciated x
As long as your daughter is happy with this arrangement, can't see the harm. Why not talk to him if you are unhappy and suggest that he stays a bit longer or comes to collect a bit later?
There is a good book called divorce for dummies which will talk you through the basics, you are very unlikely to get legal aid now but can you afford to pay for a one off advice session with a solicitor to get you started?
If you and ex have a reasonable relationship you can try discussing it between yourselves or try some sessions of mediation if you can afford it - always best to avoid court if you can, it is expensive and emotionally draining.
Start by making a list of all your known assets and liabilities and consider what you will need to maintain yourself and daughter.