Was a bit nervous and sick feeling about her going away as it's the first night away from me but her dad is a part of her life and I want them to have a good relationship so have to suck it up, and know I will eventually look forward to night.
Now he's just rang me and she's screaming down the other end of the phone. I feel so useless.
I think he's coping. He can be a bit scattered when she cries - second injections he worked himself into a right shaking state and was ready for going to hospital because she was crying - which is why now I feel a bit funny about it. I've just told him to ring me any time of night if he's not happy because as he's just said to me, it's all new to him.
Oh bless you it must be so hard. Big well done to you for being so unselfish and making sure your daughter maintains a relationship with her dad, even though being without her is causing you pain. It will get easier I'm sure but in the meantime try and do something nice for yourself, put a film on, or have a nice bath and look forward to those extra bug cuddles you'll be getting tomorrow.
Sending hugs It is really hard but in the long run you'll come to enjoy those nights when she's with her dad. My DS is 5 now & I promise it gets easier, I still miss him like crazy when he's gone but he has a great relationship with his dad which makes me happy too. Keep in contact with him, text him if you need to and trust she'll be ok.
I know I'm doing the right thing as in it's his child too and he's not a wanker like I've read some of the exs on here. He's really into her, adores her and I want to facilitate the relationship they can have.
Believe me I have had He's now just rang me to say the monitor I leant him says it's 12 degrees in the bedroom and what should he do as she's in a 2.5 tog growbag so I've had to explain feet to foot over the phone and put a blanket over her until it hits about 16.
Sad if we were still together he would know all this.
Unfortunately I can't really do anything for myself. I have another lo, five year old from my ten yr relationship who is dying with a cold which has gone into his chest and I'm afraid his asthma may send him to hospital again, why I've now stopped the wine. I think that's why I appreciate dd's dad as he's great compared to ds's (and yes I know how that sounds)
I know discogeek I will relish my times away from her in the future, it's just so hard the first couple of times. I didn't split with ds's dad until he was two so a baby being away is a new thing for me.
I know though, them having a good relationship with their dad is a priority to me too