Ok I will keep it brief but I really want an honest opinion on this one.....I am a few weeks off 39 (eek), my ex is 22, the age is important in my eyes which is why I put his age, anyway long story short, we have a 3 year old ds. I have two older children which are not his so for this reason feel I am a little bit more qualified on parenting than he is, plus the age thing.....
Anyway, he lives on his own in a 2 bed flat......he started work recently......about 6 weeks ago.....hes just called me and told me hes thinking about getting a lodger in to help with the bills which is fair enough but the reason why I freaked out is this........hes young, and so, so will his lodger be most probably, he still is clueless about a lot of childcare issues, but heres the main bit....hes so easily led its unreal.....the last time he lived with a guy similar age to him, the house was a shit hole, beer everywhere, he was hungover most days, and there was generally a lot of stuff left lying around that I wouldnt want my daughter to get her hands on, like medicine etc, beer cans, ash trays...yuk!!
So anyway I have told him he can have a lodger but that if he wants to see his daughter its going to have to be at his mothers as I know what hes like, he wont tell his lodger whats safe and not safe for a 3 year old, he becomes lazy when hes got a mate around, like its uncool to keep the place clean and I know he will spend most days when hes not working drinking beer and watching football with the curtains shut...always with the bloody curtains shut!!! kids need daylight fgs, and I dont think its a healthy atmosphere for my daughter to be around.
Also hes planning on letting my daughters room out to this mate, thats her room, so shes going to have to sleep in with her dad everytime??
I am just not happy with it at all, but please tell me if me saying "if you're having a lodger then you cant have her stay over" is wrong.
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ex wanting get a lodger in his flat...me freaking out, am i right or wrong?? :-(
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happyatlast · 06/03/2013 11:58
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