I have an 8 month old son. My ex has never shown care or attention to DS, watching TV and pretty much ignoring him when he is over, but I have always encouraged contact in the hope of him beginning to gain interest as DS gets older.
While he has never been violent to me, he has been charged in the past for unprovoked violence, and he has a very short temper. He has shouted at DS and gets very angry in his expression if DS won't stop crying. He seems to take DS's (normal) behavior as a personal insult a lot of the time. I know this all sounds very petty, but his general behavior and lack of interest and care up until now has made me concerned about him around DS alone yet, and so I have always been there for contact.
During todays visit, ex said "He needs a fucking punch" when DS was having a "not wanting to sleep yet" tantrum. This then turned into a conversation in which he stated that he think's hitting is perfectly acceptable if the child is being "bad", that he has "looked it up online and it's legal as long as it doesn't leave any bruises" and that "we will see who he behaves for best once he's older then" when I was arguing against it.
The thing that has now scared me, is that I looked it up online just now, and it does actually say its still legal as long as no marks are left from it?!
And also, as I have no evidence of him saying this, will I now have to send my son off to be hit, knowing this will happen, until it gets to a point he has bruises before I can do anything about it?!
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SandCastlesGoSquash · 09/02/2013 19:02
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