Mine were 4, 2 & 9months old when their dad left. They are now 17, 14 & 13.
I've always worked full time, no support from my family parents both died before DCs were born, XPs parents lived 70 miles away, but have been generally lovely. I had excellent affordable childcare while they were at primary school & their primary teachers universally adored them,
A few shaky bits along the way..their dad is now a violent alcoholic & we moved 500+ miles away from him two years ago, so I could take a promotion at work. There have been problems with 2/3rds of them regarding 2ndry school. DD has more or less dropped out of her 2nd year of A levels, which, to be honest is disappointing...but she is beautiful, assured, takes no shit & has a lovely bf & a part time job. DS1 has lots of problems at he moment, but I don't attribute those to a mono-parent household. At his best he is kind, hilariously funny & very, very talented. DS2 is just lovely in all ways. He is a joy. Tries SO hard at everything, never gives up.
It's tough. Although I earn twice as much as when XP left (which is just as well as he contributes sod-all) there is never enough money. We've never had a family holiday, the DCs don't have after school activities, they have always had packed lunches etc...
As they've got bigger, it's got easier...& more complicated. But I guess that happens. . You can absolutely do this & your DCs won't be any the worse for it.
You can do it. I did when mine were 8, 3 and 11 months. Yes, it was hard work but now my youngest is 11 years old, things are so much easier. We are a little gang and the children are very close. I couldn't be happier with how they're turning out. Sorry if that's boasting, but it's true
If I'd stayed with their father, they would be very insecure with years of therapy ahead of them. I made the right choice. You can too.
I am facing the prospect of being a lone parent of 3 children. and the thought terrifies me. I was a lone parent of 2 for 18 months until i met my partner and we went on to have a little one together. He has now done something totally unforgivable and I am making plans to escape. Please inspire me, tell me your success stories and help me believe I can do this alone!