What do you do in a evening?

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What do you do in a evening when your DCs are in bed?
I have limited friends (all couples or parents) and i am feeling increasingly lonely.
I've had no texts at all today (thinking too much I know)
And
I've watched the entire box set of Downton Abbey now.
The evenings just seem to drag, I almost feel like sleeping confused

MissPricklePants Sun 13-Jan-13 19:23:26

I have had no texts in days. I crochet, do housework, play on the wii, read...I am used to my own company as I have been single a while.

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Sun 13-Jan-13 19:24:49

I have lots stored up on my sky+ and have a few books too. I will try and sort washing/dishes/tidying but that usually means MN grin It does get easier with time honest. I don't get many calls at all now, the odd text, but I'm ok with that. Just try and learn that your company is fabulous and just because others don't share it, they are missing outwink Your little baby will love it, and that is far more important than anyone else. I'm a bit of a boring bastard but my DD thinks in hilarious. Go figure. grin

Fuck all tbh.

I've been child free since yesterday afternoon and hes not back til late tomorrow afternoon. I have done nothing.

Might go to shop for trashy mags to read in the bath but that's it

Thanks smile
I feel a boring bitch, feel I should be doing more!

KatyPeril Sun 13-Jan-13 19:32:01

Mostly waste time on Mumsnet grin

WhatDoesTheDogSay Sun 13-Jan-13 19:34:15

Chore, chores, and more chores, re-settle LO loads of times, hope that I'll get an undisturbed half-hour for a cuppa... It's all rock n roll around here! Oh, and let the dog out.

Chottie Sun 13-Jan-13 19:37:05

I don't get loads of texts either. I read, watch TV, knit, soak in the bath, paint my toe nails, declutter and just chill.

stella1w Sun 13-Jan-13 19:45:14

Mn, chores, sleep. Aim to be able to email friends more and watch tv.

DVDs, tea, MN, washing up, get DS school clothes and bag ready, more tea, more MN, more DVDs.

Bit of a boring single mum fart, me grin

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Sun 13-Jan-13 19:54:23

Don't ever underestimate the benefit of doing absolutely fuck all. I have days/ hours when DD is at school/GPs/dads when I should be getting on with things but I just enjoy sitting on just arse with a cuppa and my net book. Sometimes, you have to just sit down and do nothing, let the stillness and quiet wash over you and enjoy not having someone else nip your ear about 'stuff'. You are doing this all on your own, and deserve enormous praise for that. I didn't do the early years alone and have such admiration for you on that alone.

Thank you for all the helpful suggestions

Graceparkhill Sun 13-Jan-13 20:03:35

Agree with buncha. I am not an LP but my DH has had signifcant health issues over the years which have turned me into a carer. Hope you don't mind me posting here.
A few thoughts .
When nights get lighter can you go for walk with DC?
Would you like to study something online or take up a craft type thingy?
Could you take it in turns to babysit so you can get out?
I am guessing you have younger DC. It gets easier as they get older and they are better company too.

kinkyfuckery Sun 13-Jan-13 20:05:35

Mostly just play around online and eat. I also read, and maybe do a bit of housework. Nothing exciting, but I enjoy the down time.

I might start knitting.
She's four months now, I'm going back to work in April and start studying in September so my time should be fuller soon smile

BornToFolk Sun 13-Jan-13 20:28:00

I'm currently eating Ben & Jerry's, watching Antiques Roadshow and MNing! Later I'll be knitting and watching Ripper Street.

Usually my evenings are spent watching doing a few chores, TV, knitting and arsing about on t'internet. On summer evenings I might potter in the garden a little bit.

I quite like my own company and I'm a lazy arse so this suits me quite well. I sometimes phone my mum or sister for a chat.

I have just signed up for an evening course that starts this week which I'm looking forward to. It'll be a bit of a squeeze fitting it in as I work too but I really feel the need to do something that's just for me, and maybe even meet some new people as, like you, all my friends are coupled up (and most currently have tiny babies so not really up for going out quite as much)

justj Mon 21-Jan-13 22:50:29

Fitness dvds. Open university course. knitting, soaps and reading.

the evenings aren't long enough! ;-)

queenofthepirates Japan Tue 22-Jan-13 00:39:03

I teach crafts to other people in my kitchen. I advertise locally and get lots of nice people to come to me. I teach knitting and sewing and make a modest living out of it.

I also watch an awful lot of Scandinavian crime dramas, write knitting patterns and have an ebay shop.

Im.not a LP, but after DH being away for three weeks recently I want to give you thanks as I found it a challenge.

I mainly watched stuff I had Sky+d, bit of laundry, MN, games on my smart phone and bed by nine thirty. Living life in the fast lane grin

I did spend a few evenings doing thank you cards for dds birthday and xmas gifts. Maybe crafts are the way to go? Pinterest is a great app for inspirarion, I can quite happily while a way a few hours on there.

justj Tue 22-Jan-13 10:55:34

queenofthepirates I have always wondered if that would work as I have had the same idea. (re craft lessons)
(and also watch a lot of Scandinavian drama...although i am not sure that is a prerequisite;-) )

I might give it a try.

Currently I am planning on using stuffing from old pillows and couch cushions to stuff a giant sit on turtle that I am going to crochet from all the leftovers from my enormous and shaming wool stash. and I will be looking for some box sets to watch while I'm doing it. (my vices: buying too much wool and inability to throw out potentially useful things like stuffing. I also make rugs out of the kids old clothes)

acceptableinthe80s Tue 22-Jan-13 12:35:23

Currently i'm working my way through series 8 of 24 on lovefilm and staying up way too late! Soon i'll be studying in the evenings as i'm re-training. But generally i just chill out, read/watch tv/have a bath or do a bit of yoga. If i'm really bored i'll call a friend for a chat.
I've been single forever and love it, i honestly can't imagine 'sharing' my space (or remote) with another adult smile.

Mumfortoddler Sun 27-Jan-13 21:06:36

Oh I feel your pain, in the same boat. Its annoying and whilst recently I was studying a Masters, I have now gone back to long nights of quiet again. As someone so sociable before its crippling me...! This year I have made a vow, and I am now inviting friends to my house for dinner and have been inviting people I know through work for dinner. Its not easy though and totally feel your pain. I do lots of armchair campaigning through my computer- see 38 degrees- and read and work alot after DS has gone to bed. Good luck x

emmab16 Fri 22-Feb-13 21:58:03

I have taken up knitting, my 4 yo thinks it's hilarious & wants to help..... Err no!

Sky + is wonderful & an early night cannot be too early sometimes, i'm always shattered

Ragwort Fri 22-Feb-13 22:01:37

Why don't you text/phone your 'couple' friends? I have a DH but to be honest we rarely spend our evenings together, he is watching sport on tv, I am in another room mumsnetting or reading, I would love to hear from my friends (single or otherwise grin) but tend to assume that everyone is busy with their own evenings - whether that is watching swedish tv drama/knitting or whatever. I am sure there are a lot of peopel hesitating to get in touch with anyone else because we are all so busy mumsnetting grin.

SpringyReframed Fri 22-Feb-13 22:09:17

OP, I was just wondering the same as you this evening. I'm too tired to do anything much most evenings but getting increasingly restless now I'm nearly completely over my divorce. I wondered if it was just boredom caused by such a long cold wet winter?

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