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jan2013 · 02/01/2013 14:28

hi, i know there are many in far worse scenarios but im finding things really difficult at the minute. have a 15 month dd, and her sleep is awful. she is up late at night, sometimes till 10 or 12 if she falls asleep for a few minutes in the car. if i try to put her down at a reasonable time she just cries and cries. she just doesn't seem tired. she is so hyper at night and im so tired and stressed trying to manage her ... she isn't really that badly behaved, but its just the hyperness, the mess of the house she creates. she refuses to let me change her cos she is bouncing everywhere.

when she finally goes to bed im usually in tears with exhaustion, the house is a mess. then she wakes up a couple of hours later - i tried sleep training months ago, but im too tired to go through with it again and its easier bringing her into my bed and this is what she is used to now. it worked for awhile, but now she is waking up so many times a night, i end up having to hold her most of the night and eventually we will both sleep.

most of my friends children aren't like her... they are more placid, she is so lively and i wouldn't change anything about her she is amazing, but i feel so tired and feel its such hard work. does anyone have any suggestions about how to cope? i do get help, and i still feel like this. i have a sleep mist i use for us, i put lavender oil in the bath.

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Meglet · 02/01/2013 22:07

hi, sorry you're having a crappy time Sad.

My DD is a bit of a handful too, in fact she would be bouncing around in her cot like a maniac at that age, she still tears around at bedtime and she's 4 now. Can you get out to some open spaces so she can get fresh air and toddle as much as she can, that's if she's walking well enough. Probably stating the obvious but is her room a comfortable temperature and dark enough to sleep, no noisy toys on her cot to keep her awake.

If I were you I would take it bit by bit, if she's naturally full of energy then IME it won't change overnight. But I do know what it's like being worn down by DC's and then watching the house go to rack and ruin because you don't have the time or energy to tackle it.

Do you work? It's harder if you are juggling work and a DC, I often let things slide as my priority has to be work and paying the bills, I deal with the kids and house when I have the time and energy!

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DoubleYew · 03/01/2013 23:07

That is what I was going to say, exercise and fresh air. Get an all in one rain suit thing and go out jumping in puddles. If the weather is too crap do repeated assault course using sofa cushions etc - did it today and my livewire was asleep in 2 mins.

Do you have a bedtime routine? I know that is an irritating question as its not a magic solution. Also reading books about going to bed eg Maisy's Bedtime. You can even make your own personalised one using photos of her.

If you get her to sleep earlier, one night a week go to bed when she does. If you can't sleep, read, no screens. Sounds ridiculous but it really helps me manage.

Just do whatever you can to survive. I gave up sleep training ds and at 2.5 his sleep is much, much better all of his own accord.

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jan2013 · 04/01/2013 13:37

thank you for your replies... dh has taken dd this morning and ive spend all morning filling out the housing benefit form to get our finances sorted... its a full head melted.

im going to sit at some stage and write out all the suggestions of what to do when dd is like this at night, so that i have the list in front of me when i can't think straight.

i always do go to bed when she does, as im far too tired to stay up! i just quickly put away her toys first.

i don't work but i volunteer and study, and am starting part time work soon. im a bit nervous about how ill handle it with lack of sleep etc. getting out is a good idea.. im not one for the cold really, but there is a shopping centre than opens late near me every night, and it would be ideal for maybe going to after dinner to let her walk around and get the energy out of her. a friend also said i could come round to hers, and i will also try to get a better bedtime routine sorted.

thanks for the support. ive heard that their sleep does improve in time, i hope this happens to dd! thing is im not bothering to make her stay in the cot anymore and i hope im not making a rod for my own back!

take care

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rysmum · 04/01/2013 13:53

hi
I had problems with my children, they never went to bed when they were ment to and if they did go to bed they would scream and shout and be in and out of bed all night....i was worn out!!
Then one night my friend and her husband came over and her husband saw how much this was affecting me so once they were ready for bed, he told me to give them a kiss goodnight and he took them to bed.
The kids new he didnt take any messing so when he put them to bed they stayed there for a while.
Then if they got out of bed he would go and put them back in.....they were soon settled and after he done this for 2 nights...it was my go Hmm

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rysmum · 04/01/2013 13:56

OPPS posted to soon!! Blush

after that 1st night they were in bed and asleep by a normal time and the difference in everyone was amazing ...
so i guess what im trying to say is maybe try someone else doing bed time to give you both a break and see how it goes.

goodluck Smile

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blackeyedsusan · 09/01/2013 00:30

how are you doing jan?

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