Hiya, I am a long time mumsnetter, and this board helped me so much, when 8 yrs ago my dh up and left me and my dd with no backwards glance. He met someone very quickly and moved in with her and her children
DD was 3, and has never known or remembered a male in my or her life. Her dad pretty much abandoned her emotionally but saw her sporadically for 2 yrs, and when she was 6 stopped contact altogether.
We have become a very tight unit, me and dd, she is now ten. I have met someone and i have no idea how to even broach the subject, as it feels alien to me having been alone all this time, and it's going to be odd for her.
I am so scared of her reaction, or moreso how I should react to her reaction. We have a very good relationship, and we talk alot. We have been through the mill with her father, and she has had some awful times of emotional trauma and physical/health problems too. All probably related.
Her dad is seeing her again tho a few times a month, has been for 4 months. Dd was very brave and asked him back into her life, and i am very pleased that they now have some sort of relationship. She is alot more settled emotionally than she has been in yrs, as she doesn't feel now like she has no father at all.
The person I am seeing is someone who will be longterm. Someone i wish to be with properly eventually. Yet it all feels so weird!! I'd long given up meeting anyone, and I don't even think it would occur to dd that mum might have bloke interested in her
My own parents split when i was a teen and my now step dad moved in pretty soon, and to be honest i went with it as I had no choice and i wanted my mum to be happy. Yet of course, i had seen my mum with my dad for all those yrs so knew mum's can have partners.
So any views on how to get started. She knows this person, as he was a friend who has painted my house, and done stuff around. think diy sorta. So she has a familarity with the name and the face but that is all!!
tia xx
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piratecat · 12/11/2012 16:30
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